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Some time in between high school and college, I realized something about myself: I wasn’t sexually attracted to anyone. I thought there must be something wrong with me. It didn’t even occur to me that there was a sexual orientation that defined me, or that there were other people out there like me who didn’t see relationships with people through a sexual lens.

If there are women in the room, their objectification seems to be a bonding mechanism for butches and men. The patriarchy barters and trades with women as currency, and in those moments, we’re doing the same thing. But I know that we can be empowered without using our power in a way that hurts people. Our masculinity doesn’t have to turn femmes into objects whenever our masculinity is questioned.

Trans women are a component of queer women’s communities, so a lack of respect amongst us just means more devaluing of women, when society dishes out plenty of that for all of us already. So with that in mind, I have put together some suggestions for cis women on thinking through some basic trans issues, including ideas on approaching trans women in a romantic or intimate context.

There’s a right way and a wrong way to let someone know that you find them attractive. These tips will help you do it the right way.

Sometimes I get asked, ‘How do I approach a fat girl?’ Just like ANY other woman! We’re real people with real personalities and feelings, like anyone else – except as fat women, we spend a lot of our lives being treated differently, usually not in a good way. This includes when people try to date us. So here are some tips to help you respectfully approach and date larger women.

Want to avoid being “that guy” when you flirt? Society’s giving you some mixed messages, but these tips will help clear things up.

My first sexual experiences taught me that sex is all about power and control. For me, being in a relationship meant relinquishing any power or control I had over my own body and my own emotions. Sex was the key to emotional security; when my partner was sexually satisfied, I was emotionally satisfied. It took four years of counseling with a therapist specializing in trauma for me to understand that this was a very unhealthy way of thinking.

I love my sister. I love her with every ounce of my being. But recently she blocked me after I commented on her Facebook post supporting Chick-Fil-A’s stance against gay marriage.

Years ago, I was seduced by Edward Cullen in Twilight. But today I see what I thought was caring and protective was actually controlling and emotionally abusive.

“Because stretched skin isn’t a ‘failure.’” If common ideas about stretch marks (even some of the “positive” ones) make you feel ashamed, here’s a kinder view.

The entire world convinced me over the years that my vagina was gross, dirty, and ugly. That shit stays with you. But that’s the thing about self-image and cultivating positive, awesome body-love – you have to work at it. So if you find yourself in the position of hating your vagina or if you know a young person who might, here are some suggestions to get you started on loving it instead.

Self-acceptance as a queer person can be very difficult. Check out this article to learn strategies for attaining self-love, empowerment, and resilience.

Ever thought about how many people’s jobs depend on the pressure to get married? The wedding industry may seem harmless, but it’s feeding us some toxic ideas.

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How often do you come across the idea that being “thin and healthy” is part of loving your body? Realizing that being healthy isn’t always an option can change everything.

Think MLK “wouldn’t approve” of violence in activism? That’s just one of the myths this article exposes as a straight up lie.

So you’re “just trying to help” by wanting fat people to lose weight? Then you need to know how awful it feels when even well-meaning people treat fat bodies as failures.

You’ve probably come across encouragement to love yourself before – but how can you show yourself love if you’ve done “bad” things? Justin Hubbell offers a great answer.

#1: “Sexual attraction has everything to do with race.” Do you think attraction is just a “natural preference” outside of our control? These important lessons show otherwise.

If you didn’t know her before, there’s a good chance that you’ve heard of Warsan Shire now – her words were featured on Beyoncé’s “Lemonade.” If you’ve ever been called “difficult to love,” this powerful poem is for you.

A person is resting their head on their hand, staring emptily off to the side.

Can you relate to how this author felt after leaving her abusive partner? You deserve to know there’s nothing wrong with your healing process – and these reminders can help.