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6 Things You’re Actually Saying When You Reduce Latinas to the ‘Spicy’ Stereotype
If you’ve seen Latinas on TV, you probably know the “spicy Latina” stereotype – unfortunately, it’s often the only portrayal we get of Latinas in the media. These are the myths this stereotype is spreading.
Read MoreYour First Time: A Sexual Guide for Non-Binary People Working Through Trauma
Sex can bring up painful feelings for non-binary people working through trauma. But if you want, you deserve to have positive experiences of sexual exploration. Here’s a guide to defining sex on your own terms, educating yourself with all the information you need to know about your body, and more. Read this to grow your self-confidence – even when you’re naked.
Read MoreWhy You Should Stop Saying ‘Slut’ and What to Say Instead
In recent years, the word “slut” has become deeply ingrained into our culture, to the point where people say it too easily and too casually. I’ve often asked myself: What can we do about this nasty, negative word choice that is so standard in our culture? Maybe learning more about the word itself – and more empowering words we can use instead – is a good start.
Read MoreWhy The Number Of People You’ve Slept With Isn’t Important
Even sex-positive, 21st century women sometimes still can’t help but care when their “number” goes up. Why? Because of centuries of discrimination against women, decades of sexual shaming, years of media indoctrination. Here’s some advice on ditching the scorecard.
Read MoreSurviving a Bad Reputation
Did the racy pictures get sent around the school? Did you hook-up with someone’s boyfriend and now the whole school hates you? Are you the victim of slut bashing and don’t even know why? The pain and embarrassment of being labeled a “slut’ or ‘ho” can be unbearable but there are steps you can take to navigate a bad reputation.
Read MoreHow We Can Address Sexual Violence on Campuses
The grim reality is that at least 1 in 4 college women are survivors of sexual violence, and our institutions are not doing enough to stem this terrible tide. It is time that more of us join these committed activists in transforming the culture and climate of our college and university campuses. Whether you’re a parent, a student, or alumni, here are a few ways that you help.
Read MoreWhy I Love That Beyoncé ‘Sexed Up’ Feminism and Radical Self-Expression
Many of us did not become feminists on a college campus or in an activist environment. So there needs to be dialogue that represents and facilitates the experience of feminism in more personal contexts. I think that Beyoncé’s album has some pretty radical feminist sentiments, and the fact that another feminist disagrees with that does not make me wrong, nor does it make that other woman right.
Read MoreTransgender 101: A Guide to Gender and Identity to Help You Keep Up with the Conversation
Feeling like you missed the memo on all the “new” terms about transgender identities? This simple guide can help you catch up and learn what gender really means.
Read More6 Questions to Ask If You Have More Privilege Than Your Partner
Can you relate more to this author or her partner? If your partner has a marginalized identity you don’t share, these questions may help you be supportive.
Read More4 Things Everyone Needs to Know About Endometriosis – And How You Can Help
Do you know why some people are feeling left out of period positivity and contraception talk? Endometriosis is one big reason – it’s terrifyingly common, and here’s what you need to know about it.
Read MoreThe Abortion Pill: Facts You Can Swallow
Abortion has been historically demonized, but we must rise to the occasion and ensure that everyone can gain access to safe abortions and reproductive care when and if they need it.
Read More5 Things Black Women Want To See In The New Healthcare Plan
While reflecting on recent news about health care, I think back on the lives of Anarcha, Betsy, Lucy and nine other unnamed enslaved Black women who were experimented on by the “father of modern gynecology,” a white doctor named J. Marion Sims. Without their consent or anesthesia (which was available at the time), Sims perfected…
Read More50 Liberating Relationship ‘Rules’ for Feminists to Live By
Common advice pressures you to date according to some pretty oppressive “rules.” This is a different take that may help you find healthier guidelines.
Read MoreWhy People Who Fetishize Trans Women Are Not Our Allies
These people who fetishize trans women and pose as allies may use flowery social justice language – but something’s very wrong with this picture.
Read MoreYou Still Get to Have Bodily Autonomy in a Relationship – Here’s How to Maintain It
You always get to have control over your own body – relationships included. Celia Edell shares some affirming advice to help make sure you do.
Read More5 Oppressive Tactics We Need to Stop Using in Our Anti-Oppression Work
Calling oppressive people “old,” “crazy,” or “ugly?” We get your frustration, but here’s why we’ve got to do better than making oppressive comments ourselves.
Read MoreI Was Taught to Be Proud of My Tight Asian P*ssy – Here’s Why I Wish I Hadn’t Been
“Who gets to be a ‘real’ Asian woman?” You may know the stereotypes about the “tight” Asian vagina – and we need to talk about the appalling impact.
Read More12 Reasons Why There’s Orgasm Inequity (And No, It’s Not That Women Are ‘Harder to Please’)
Have you heard of “the orgasm gap?” Some people say it’s harder for women to have orgasms – but these statistics and cultural norms will convince you that there’s more to the story.
Read More4 Things We Need to Stop Teaching Boys to Avoid Nurturing Their Sexual Entitlement
What are some ways you’ve seen society teaching boys and men that women are theirs for the taking?
Read MoreHow I Stopped Letting a Man Tell Me My Body Was ‘Too Wrinkled’ For Him
This author’s date told her “Your body is too wrinkly. I like your head and your heart. But I just can’t deal with your body.” Here’s why she told him “thank you.”
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