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I Really Want to Be Well: Healing Trauma is Central to My Feminist Practice
Many of us have been wounded by the violent patriarchal, heteronormative, and racist structures that are the pillars of capitalism, empire, and colonization. Many of us long to be free. Healing ourselves — body, spirit, and mind — is essential to feminism. We must bring radical love back to the center of our movements. Radical self-love and self-care are central components to social justice.
Read MoreWhat’s My Purpose?
Now, although I love investing emotionally in movies, I am always cognizant that they show the before and after transformation quickly, never expounding upon the work that it takes to reach the end goal. And I always recognized that this part was unrealistic. But it made me wonder: How was I supposed to figure out what I wanted to be? How was I supposed to achieve it?
Read MoreFeel Better About Yourself: Cut These Five Words
Paying attention to how you use your words is core to keeping the relationship you have with yourself healthy. By cutting certain words and phrases out of my vernacular, I’ve created more space for more positive thoughts and feelings. Letting go of limiting speech has helped me like myself more – because now I’m not criticizing who I am at every turn. And that’s helped me make myself a priority.
Read MoreCreating Change through Acceptance
I can’t think of an instance where someone (a client, a friend, myself) hated something into changing. Not one. Single. Instance. It doesn’t create change. If anything, it only creates more stress. If you really want to change a habit, or a situation, or how you feel about yourself, the only route that will bring you any peace is to start with acceptance.
Read MoreHow to Be Upset (In a Good Way)
When you’re angry, the question isn’t about whether or not your feelings are valid – because they are. But rather: Is there a healthier way to respond? Anger is a perfectly healthy human emotion. But what you do with that anger can be hurtful. Here are some ways to identify our go-to reactions so that we can better prepare ourselves to make choices when it comes to our emotional expressions.
Read MoreWhat Does Being Emotionally Healthy Look Like?
I had learned that it was “best” to seem healthier or present a plastic version than to reveal the real, hurting me. But inside, I felt fried, blitzed, scattered. At some point, I decided that I had had enough of that. It needed to stop. I needed to change. But I wasn’t even sure what my image of emotional healthiness was. Here are some ways I learned that worked for me and may work for you.
Read More3 Steps Toward Changing Your Relationship with Something You Don’t Like About Yourself
I went through a decade where I didn’t like much of anything about myself. I would sit for hours wondering what was wrong with me, why I wasn’t like so-and-so, or why I couldn’t just like myself. And then I got so fed up with not knowing how to change that I no longer cared that I didn’t know how to do it. I was going to do it anyway. And now, I want to share how I did it — in three reflective steps.
Read MoreWhy You Should Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (And How To Do It)
When we lose this comparison battle, we feel bad, jealous, envious, and less than whole. When we win the comparison battle, we feel a bit of satisfaction mixed with an underlying fear that we may have won this battle, but what if things change and we lose out next time? In essence, comparing yourself to others is always a losing game. So here’s how to stop comparing and start enjoying what you’ve got.
Read More5 Ways To Switch From Sabotaging Thoughts To Empowering Ones
It’s easy for me to let negative thoughts creep into my mind and follow them down dark pathways where I not only feel misguided but also frightened. For so long I had been disconnected from my wants and needs, I had been following the script I had learned from others. So here are the techniques I use to delete my mocking, critical, mafia mind to make room for the good stuff.
Read MoreCellulite, Rimples, And Dimples – A Beautiful Reality Check
Don’t let your cellulite, wrinkles, sagging skin, or whatever else hold you back from living a full and active and awesome life. Don’t let media convince you that those body characteristics are shameful, gross, or anything other than 100% normal, healthy, and part of a truly beautiful reality. Let’s redefine beauty for ourselves by making it more inclusive of reality — warts, er…dimples, and all!
Read More5 New Year’s Resolutions I’m Making as a Survivor of Sexual Assault
2016 was a tough year for survivors, but you deserve to enter 2017 with self-love. This author’s resolutions are a great place to start.
Read MoreThe Body Is Not An Apology
Check out the spoken word poem that started a powerful movement of self-love and remember that your body is not an apology!
Read MoreMarriage Institutions Aren’t Just Sexist — They’re Ableist And Disrespectful To People With Disabilities
In order to achieve full equality, society must recognize that disabled people are non-monolithic, deeply complex human beings with hopes, desires, fears and life goals just like everyone else.
Read MoreLet’s Be Real, Mainstream LGBTQIA+ Organizations Aren’t Really Showing Up For QTPOC. Here’s What They Need To Do Now
The ‘LGBTQIA+ community’ is rife with hierarchies in power, and it’s been time to not just include, but center the most vulnerable members.
Read MoreHow TV Teaches Us Toxic Monogamy
In many cases, monogamy is used as something that is constantly threatened, rather than as an agreement between two people who love each other and want to love only each other.
Read MoreOn Sexuality, Representation, and Being a Lonely Brown Girl
This article was originally published on Kajal Magazine and republished here with the author‘s permission. A few years ago, I truly believed a brown man would save me from my loneliness. It’s embarrassing to admit now, but at the time, my everyday life was shaped by this hope: if I could just find one to…
Read MoreFor Those Who Do Not Want a Trump Presidency – This Is What We Will Do Now
What are we going to do with Donald Trump as president? It may feel hard to find answers – so here’s an honest, compelling take.
Read MoreHow My Sexuality Changed When My Husband Became My Wife
Does a person’s sexual orientation change if their spouse makes a gender transition? This author’s answer challenges society’s notions about sexuality and gender.
Read MoreDiary of a Polyamorous Black Girl – How I Learned That Polyamory Is a Privilege
Is polyamory a relationship option that’s unavailable to most black people? Here’s how this author has faced stigma as both a polyamorous person and a black woman.
Read MoreHow My Husband’s Subconscious Racism Nearly Destroyed Our Marriage
“This was how I realized I was dating a racist man.” Wow. This story really shows how much racism is normalized in our lives – even in our intimate relationships.
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