It’s the favorite advice of patriarchal misogynists everywhere: “Man up.” (See also: “Grow a pair,” “Be a man,” and “Stop acting like a girl.”) This phrase presents a view of masculinity that is oppressive to not just women and gender non-conforming people, but to men as well. Check out Guante’s kick*ss poem with ten ways to respond to this so-called “advice.”

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There’s a difference between being chivalrous and being nice. We should all be nice to everyone – regardless of their gender. But when you do something nice for women because of their gender, is not just being nice – it’s being chivalrous, which is based on the belief that women are fragile, delicate creatures who need special treatment.

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