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Gaslighting Is a Common Victim-Blaming Abuse Tactic – Here Are 4 Ways to Recognize It in Your Life
Ever felt like you couldn’t trust your own memory? Many people with abusive partners or family can relate. Here’s how to tell if it’s happening you.
Read More6 Signs That You Might Not Really Respect Your Transgender Loved One
You talk the talk about supporting trans people in your life – but are you really being supportive? If these signs are familiar, here’s what to do instead.
Read MoreGetting Called Out: Why Acknowledging Oppression Matters More Than Your Hurt Feelings
It’s a natural desire to want to give your opinion on something. We all want to think that our perspective matters – and oftentimes, it does. But sometimes it doesn’t. And we don’t always think about the implications of our words. So, what do you do when you get called out for saying something problematic – and you totally “didn’t mean it like that?”
Read More6 Ways Your Social Justice Activism Might Be Ableist
#5: “Policing and enforcing use of academic rhetoric.” These examples are everywhere in activism these days – recognize any from your own social justice work?
Read More9 Phrases Allies Can Say When Called Out Instead of Getting Defensive
Defensiveness seems to be the most common response to getting called out – and allies aren’t saying these phrases nearly enough.
Read More4 Reasons Why the US Police Force Is an Extension of Slavery and White Supremacy (That You Were Probably Never Taught)
Many Black and Black-allied people in the US are enraged with the police. We think if you read these historical and contemporary truths, you’ll be angry, too.
Read More‘Don’t Make Us Look Bad’: The Invisibility of LGBTQIA+ Intimate Partner Violence
We’re taught that a “normal” relationship has a cisgender man and a cisgender woman. Same with a “normal” case of intimate partner violence. But reports of LGBTQIA+ intimate partner violence are on the rise. So why is LGBTQIA+ IPV so invisible? Let’s survey the scene, and get some essential guidelines for giving safe and affirming support to LGBTQIA+ IPV survivors.
Read More7 Reasons We Have to Stop Treating ‘Poor’ Like a Bad Word
Do you believe any of the common myths perpetuating the stigma on poor people? Too many feminists forget about class in their activism – and here’s why we’ve got to stop the stigma, for everyone.
Read More5 Great Tips to Make Talking with Your Partner About Sex Easier
Do you have a hard time talking to your partner about your sexual desires and boundaries? You’re not alone – this article has five reasons these discussions can be difficult, with some strategies to make it easier.
Read More7 Affirmations You Deserve as An Activist Facing Online Harassment
If you’re an activist who spends time online, you know exactly what this author’s talking about – and these messages will be a breath of fresh air.
Read More5 Reasons Sylvia Rivera Is One of the Most Badass Radical Trans Heroes to Ever Live
Have you ever found parts of yourself reflected in a revolutionary hero’s story? That’s what this author found with Sylvia Rivera, who’s gaining more visibility – but still rarely given the respect she deserves. Find out why she’s such an inspiration.
Read MoreGuys Need Pap Tests, Too: A Trans Man’s Guide to Visiting the Gyno
Going to the gynecologist, as a trans man in a transphobic world, can be an incredibly uncomfortable and verbally violent experience. Consequently, many men avoid getting necessary medical services like pap smears—which could lead to a completely different discomfort. Here’s some advice on how to safely negotiate your pap test as a trans man.
Read MoreCis Privilege and Identity Policing in the Bi and Pan Community: 3 Harmful Tropes and 3 Ways We Can Unite Instead
Too often bisexuality and pansexuality are pitted against each other in the name of fighting transphobia. Calling out transphobia is vital. But too often this debate is used more to devalue the other identity. Let’s talk about why this debate is hurting cis polysexual people and trans people of all sexual orientations and how we can support everyone instead.
Read MoreCalling In: A Quick Guide on When and How
If the ultimate goal is to get someone to change their problematic behavior, then we need to be intentional and strategic about how we encourage people to do that, especially other activists. How do we, as people with shared goals for social justice, hold each other accountable? In addition to calling people out, we can also call each other in when we mess up.
Read MoreThese 3 Powerful Stories Show Why Wearing Camo Can Be Anti-Feminist
Wearing camouflage patterns as a fashion choice – anti-feminist? What do the two even have to do with each other? Turns out, a lot more than you may think.
Read More6 Feminist Ways to Celebrate (Or Overthrow) Valentine’s Day
Is it possible to celebrate love without the oppressive ideas that typically come with Valentine’s Day? Here are some fun suggestions for all of you who love love, but not heteropatriarchal capitalism.
Read More10 Ways to Support Friends and Family Members in Prison
Have incarcerated loved ones? If you feel stuck about how to support them, try these tips from someone who’s been in your shoes.
Read More4 Sex Myths Your Teen Is Getting at School – And How to Counteract Them
Do you know what your teenager’s learning about things like sexual violence and objectification? These are pretty disturbing – but this article has some solid tips on what you can do about it.
Read More5 Ways to Lovingly Support Someone With C-PTSD
I was watching the Disney movie The Hunchback of Notre Dame when I suddenly went into shock. Right from the start, seeing Quasimodo be the recipient of so much gaslighting – being told that the world wasn’t safe, that he would never be accepted or loved, that Frollo had only his best interest at heart…
Read MorePolyamorous Dating: 5 Tips For Dealing With Jealousy
“But don’t you get jealous?” This is often one of the first questions about polyamory, and it’s true that jealousy can be tricky to navigate. If you’re polyamorous, these helpful tips can give you the tools you need.
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