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Trans folks are people, just like cis folks are. But the way some cis people talk to trans people implies otherwise. Disrespectful questions, trivialization of trans issues, conflation of gender identity and sexual preference all add up to the dehumanization of trans folks. Check out this video compilation of some of the most common transphobic microaggressions!

I pray that queer and trans survivors aren’t left behind — our voices deserve to be front and center in the movement as much any other survivor.

Is your space only for binary women, or for more gender identities? This info will help you avoid exclusive language when you’re trying to be inclusive.

Check out who’s telling the lie that anti-trans bathroom bills are about “women’s safety,” and you’ll know why we’re not falling for it.

“Nobody should have that taken away from them.” Work life was going well for Tristan Broussard – until his employers learned he was transgender. Here’s what happened next.

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From fetishizers to feminists, there are many people who participate in these ways of exotifying trans women of color. Here’s a firsthand account of the impact – with ideas on how to help end this harmful dehumanization.

I get particularly unnerved when I can’t readily identify the fix-a-feeling brew for a loved one’s emotional ailment. But I’ve learned over the years that every bit of the energy you create with your friend as they work through their emotional struggle, can serve as part of their elixir for healing their hurt – if you can just be there without fixating on the fix.

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Got a friend who’s transitioning, but not sure how to be supportive – especially if you haven’t worked out your own feelings yet? That’s okay! Let this article be your guide.

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Being a thin ally to fat acceptance movements includes hard conversations about things like making sure your activism doesn’t further marginalize fat people. These lessons can be a helpful start.

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What are we missing when we call ourselves allies? This author had some insightful realizations about what it really takes to give support, and you might find yourself taking off the “ally” label once you’ve read them.

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We weren’t expecting this article to take the turn that it did – but it helped us reevaluate our internalized oppression, so we’re sure glad it did.

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Dear partner, I understand that you don’t understand what it’s like to have an eating disorder, and I know that you’re not trying to trigger me. But if you really want this relationship to work, we’re going to need to talk about my eating disorder recovery. Because eating disorder recovery affects all aspects of a person’s life, and I need you to work with me on this.

There are lots of ways to be a great “ally” – and innumerable ways to be a terrible one. But it’s not rocket science. There are simple things you can keep in mind and do in order to be a better person “currently operating in solidarity with” the marginalized or oppressed. And while this list is not comprehensive, it’s definitely somewhere to start. So “allies,” let’s talk.

These trans folks are speaking for themselves about who they are. And their lives are not like most people think.

Ever been confused about pronouns, or about what to do if you’re not sure how someone identifies? This video’s got the info you need to clear up these questions and more.

There are a lot of misconceptions about what it means to be a trans guy — everything from conflating it with sexuality (“All trans guys are just super lesbians”) to misunderstanding that trans is not necessarily defined physically (“You aren’t really trans until you start hormone treatment”). Arielle Scarcella and Benton Sorensen team up to bust some of these myths!

Not only do I have to deal with the crippling dysphoria that comes from having a body that I often don’t even recognize as my own, I also have to deal with the cultural misogyny that tells me that a woman can’t be as fat as I am and still be desirable. I have to navigate this world where people either feel like my fatness is somehow hurting them or exists only to feed their fetish. And it sucks.

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We really didn’t expect some of these (which reminds us to check our assumptions). Which one surprises you most?

Sharing images of Black police brutality victims – is it about racial justice, or just sensationalism? White allies can do better.

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Research shows that we’ve got to change the tone of the conversations we’re having about teen parenthood. Here’s how you can support young families.