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One of the most dangerous aspects of abusive relationships is that perpetrators convince their partners that the abuse is a sign of love. And that can be a difficult spell to break. This short film follows the story of a poet named Lucy who delivers a spoken word piece about the subtle ways that abuse began to dominate her relationship — and how she broke free.

My maternal grandmother never referred to herself as a feminist. I’m not sure if she ever came across the term. However, throughout my childhood and into my womanhood, her words and actions have had a profound effect on how I viewed womanhood, marriage, money management, social justice, and inner peace. Here are six stories that helped to mold my feminist foundation.

“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be better?” What can you learn from being wrong? This approach will move you past defensiveness to get being wrong right.

Teen and “tween” (that difficult, in-between age of 9-12) girls nowadays have it rough. Contrast this with the caveman era that I grew up in, that oh-so-long-ago decade known as the 1990s, in which girls could simply chillax and be themselves…kind of. But before we roll our eyes at the behavior of “kids these days,” we should at least consider how our adolescence was different.

Should the LGBTQIA+ acronym include an “A” for “ally”? Here’s why allies don’t belong in the acronym – and where they should be instead.

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No ally is “perfect” – so like this author, you’ve probably made some mistakes. This author’s getting real about his missteps, and we can all learn from the lessons he took away from them.

Bernie Sanders, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, respectability politics – lots of white folks who say they support black people are missing the mark in racial justice conversations. Here’s how to give more effective support.

We’ve all been there – just when you think you’ve become a good ally, somebody tells you that you’ve done or said something problematic. Here’s the good news: nobody’s perfect, so you’re not alone. Perfection is not what’s important, and being an ally doesn’t mean you can do no wrong. Read about what is important, and learn what to do if you make a mistake.

“Why is this event only for [insert marginalized identity]? I’m an ally! I want to show my support.” While it can hurt when you come with good intentions, a healing space that is only for people of a marginalized identity that you don’t share is not for you. And that’s actually ok and needed. But sometimes we forget that and demand entry. Here’s another approach.

This is the essential conflict of being queer in a small, conservative town – should you chose to live openly and unapologetically, you might be rejected by the very people and things you’ve spent a lifetime loving. But it is possible to inspire change and build community in your own neck of the woods. The world needs people who stay and I want you to know that this flighty gay is here for you.

What’s your role as an international ally against anti-black oppression in the US? This author had the same question, and here are some great ideas.

When this woman looked at other women’s accomplishments, she felt worse about herself and criticizing them was her defense mechanism. Here’s why, and how, we can support rather than lament the success of other women.

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Something about working in the service industry makes people think it’s okay to mistreat you. Here are some tips for when work gets hard – and ways consumers can make it easier.

What do you have to do to be “trans enough?” Spoiler alert: Your gender isn’t up for debate. These affirmations will remind you of just that.

A group of people at the beach, reaching one hand into the center of the circle to join together in solidarity.

This author has noticed some disturbing trends in how trans folks can actually perpetuate transphobia against other trans folks in the community. Here are some important ideas for what to do about it.

A piece of paper is taped to an antique blue door, which reads "Trans Folx Only."

Is the Internet the only place giving you relief from the burden of society’s gender binary? Here are some of the ways that seeking out or creating your own trans-dedicated spaces could change your life for the better.

When someone brings up Caitlyn Jenner as a model trans person, it can actually be a great prompt for expanding the conversation. Here are some ways to help shift our society’s focus from supporting only trans folk who are deemed “acceptable” to addressing cissexism and gender-based oppression.

Trans & GNC 5 Good Reasons Why the LGBTQIA+ Acronym Shouldn’t Include ‘Ally’ 6 Affirmations for Trans Folks Who Don’t Feel ‘Trans Enough’ 5 Ways Trans People Can Support Other Trans People 10 Reasons Why Trans Folks Need Trans-Dedicated Spaces 10 Things Trans Activists and Allies Need to Remember That Have Nothing to Do With…

At one point during this year’s Oscars ceremony, it dawned on me: Many people don’t know the difference between trans women and drag queens! There seems to be an assumption that all people assigned male at birth who grow up to wear clothing from the women’s section identify the same way. That couldn’t be further from the truth. So let’s talk about this difference.

The decision to come out and to whom is as individual as you are. It is likely that you will have to come out to those people closest to you and those you see frequently. However, being publicly out – as an activist or as anyone in the public eye – is a decision you must weigh. Here are some thoughts on when and how to come out but remember, only you know what’s right for you and your situation.