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Contemporary video game narratives normalize the sexual and murderous objectification, exploitation, and violence against women so cavalierly. One can’t help but question how expose to the murderous rape culture of this media influences the perspectives and behaviors of its players. How long will we tolerate such gruesomely misogynist depictions of abuse?

Despite progress made in marriage equality and representation, the truth is that the violence against queer people is still a rampant problem. After reading about a soldier who was burned to death for being gay, Andrea Gibson wrote one of her most powerful spoken word poems from the perspective of the victims of these horrific hate crimes.

We often discuss issues of rape and sexual violence with our daughters, but are we having these critical conversations with our sons? The truth is that our sons can be victims of rape, too. They can also be bystanders, confidants, or rapists. Undoubtedly these conversations are challenging. So how do we start them, and what do we talk about? Here are a few tips.

From a young age, boys are bombarded with images of the traditional model of masculinity as being strong, ready to fight, sexually entitled, and emotionless except for anger. And while many men aren’t violent, many fear being called “gay” or “girly” if they deviate from that norm too much. Here’s some ways to help your son develop his own sense of healthy masculinity.

In the wake of the tragedies in Boston, we must challenge ourselves to reflect on our reactions to loss of life, violence, and tragedy. Why don’t Americans express the same outrage when similar — and far greater — tragedies occur abroad, or even in our own urban neighborhoods? Perhaps the barometer to our reactions is grounded in racism and xenophobia.

If you’re a cis man, you probably think of yourself as one of the “good guys.” But these abusive actions are more common than you may realize. Here’s how to change them.

Asexuality is just now coming onto the horizon as an identity. In the last ten years, there has been a growing awareness that some people don’t experience sexual attraction. Given how our society assumes everyone is and wants to be sexual, it can be confusing for some people to understand how asexual people date. So here are some

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“It is time men recognize and nurture their own healing gifts.” We’re trying to shut down rape culture – but what do we need in its place? You’ll love this enlightening vision of nurturance culture.

My first sexual experiences taught me that sex is all about power and control. For me, being in a relationship meant relinquishing any power or control I had over my own body and my own emotions. Sex was the key to emotional security; when my partner was sexually satisfied, I was emotionally satisfied. It took four years of counseling with a therapist specializing in trauma for me to understand that this was a very unhealthy way of thinking.

#1: “Sow your wild oats.” You don’t have to follow these messages — and this shows how you’ll be better off with a healthier approach to sex.

I want my consent to be fun, freaky, sexy, silly, seductive, creative, captivating! I want it all, and I want it healthy and mutual! What’s wonderful, though, is that it can be ALL of these things and more. Studies have shown that healthy, open communication leads to better sex. And who doesn’t want better sex? Here are some ways asking for and giving consent can be fun and satisfying.

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This is a fascinating account of how one woman’s body and desires changed with aging. Does her story give you a new perspective on sex after 50?

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This author, like so many of us who spend our time fighting sexism, was charged with wanting to be a victim. Is it true? We do often seek to acknowledge the horrifying truth of how our culture mistreats women and other marginalized folks. But that doesn’t mean you’re “playing the victim.” Here’s some affirmation of how far that is from the truth.

When you’re a white person in an interracial relationship, you can’t be a supportive partner without acknowledging white supremacy. Here’s how to practice allyship in your relationship.

“How does that work, exactly?” She gets this question often as someone who’s asexual in a relationship with someone who isn’t. Here are some great answers.

This can be a tricky conversation for an interracial couple. But microaggressions aren’t so hard to understand when you think of them this way.

Can you relate to how this author felt in her previous relationships? If you think your partner is sexist, you’ve got to read this.

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You can find plenty of resources on “how to please your partner” – but having real conversation with your partner is the best sex tip out there. Here are some practical ways to make communication happen.

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Can you relate to how this author felt after leaving her abusive partner? You deserve to know there’s nothing wrong with your healing process – and these reminders can help.

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“What does an almost forty-year-old, out and proud lesbian do when her partner comes out as a transgender male?” This author shares her answer to this question in this touching story.