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My Partner Came Out as a Transgender Woman And We’re Happier Than Ever
“Would you still love me if…?” This is hard for some people to understand – so here’s an insider’s view that sheds a fascinating light on a relationship with a partner who transitions.
Read More4 Ways to Find Out If Your Partner Is Using Their Depression as an Excuse for Controlling Behavior
“Even if you’re the one whose feelings were hurt, you can’t stand to see your partner hate themselves so much.” This is really tough. Can you relate?
Read More5 Everyday Things You and Your Partner Can Do to Support Each Other When You Both Have Depression
We know it’s not easy, but these tips can be doable even on the hardest days. Have you found anything else that works?
Read More5 Ways to Be an Ally to Your Partner’s Eating Disorder Recovery (And Avoid Triggering Them)
Dear partner, I understand that you don’t understand what it’s like to have an eating disorder, and I know that you’re not trying to trigger me. But if you really want this relationship to work, we’re going to need to talk about my eating disorder recovery. Because eating disorder recovery affects all aspects of a person’s life, and I need you to work with me on this.
Read MoreAlong Came Poly: A Polyamorous Person’s Guide to Coming Out to Your Monogamous Partner
So you’ve figured out that you’re polyamorous. Awesome! But you’re also currently in a monogamous relationship. Uh-oh. Entering into a polyamorous relationship from a previously monogamous one can take work – but not only is it not impossible. It also can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships! Check out this comic to learn how to talk to your partner about your polyamory.
Read More6 Actual Facts About What It Means to Be Asexual
Myths and misconceptions about asexuality are way too common. Do any of these facts change what you thought about what being asexual means?
Read MoreThis Metaphor for Consent Might Be Just the Thing You Need to Make It Click
We often talk about consent as explicit, verbal, and important for new relationships. But here’s a metaphor that works for first-time sex through long-term relationships.
Read MoreHow You Can Responsibly Take Accountability When You Cause Harm To Another Person
I’m a rape and sexual assault survivor. For almost two years, I was in an emotionally, sexually, and physically violent friendship that frequently crossed my boundaries and made me feel unsafe. It took time for me to heal from what happened and relearn that the situation wasn’t my fault. My abuser never took full accountability…
Read MoreWhy We Need Asian-Black Solidarity Against Police Violence – In a Heartbreaking Comic
This is such a poignant story. And it shows how circumstances in the everyday lives of Asian Americans can relate to fighting anti-black racism and police violence.
Read MoreFear of the Free Black Child – Alternatives to Fear-Based Parenting Amid Police Violence
With police brutality threatening black children’s lives, it’s hard to let them be “carefree.” Here’s a powerful message on education and parenting for the life your kids deserve.
Read MoreHow Stigma Against Queer Men’s Bodies Puts Us at Risk for Addiction, Violence, and Other Dangers
“From that day forward, I viewed my physical attraction to men as dangerous.” Physical intimacy between men is still marked as dirty and repulsive. Here’s the impact, including drug abuse and poor health – and how we can do better.
Read More4 Things You Need to Know About Jurisdiction in Indian Country to Help End Sexual Violence
Do you know about the loophole that’s hurting Native survivors of sexual violence? The US government has created a horrible system through jurisdiction – here’s what’s going on, and how you can help address it.
Read More5 Ways People Excuse Police Violence Against Black Youth – And What They’re Missing
“The police were just doing their job!” If you’ve had any of these five thoughts after the assault at Spring Valley High or these other awful incidents, here’s why blaming Black youth is so terribly misguided.
Read More3 Ways State Violence Impacts Black Women That We Don’t Talk About Nearly Enough
These are ignored way too often – but black women experience state violence in many ways, and we’ve got to stop pushing these pressing issues to the sidelines.
Read More5 Backhanded ‘Compliments’ We Need to Stop Saying to People Who’ve Experienced Sexual Violence
It be really hard to know how to support a friend after sexual assault. So here’s some help – phrases you might want to offer for comfort, that can actually end up causing harm. Do you have any to add to the list?
Read MoreOur Society Divides Sexual Violence Survivors into ‘Good’ and ‘Bad’ – And There’s an Oppressive History Behind It
Have you noticed how society treats some survivors as “good” and some as “bad?” Here’s the disturbing truth about where that comes from.
Read More6 Steps Toward Breaking the Silence and Opening Up to Friends About Our Histories with Sexual Violence
Society tells us to be quiet and deal with the trauma of sexual violence alone. This complacency allows for continued violence, loneliness, and delayed healing. However, creating community through sharing our history with sexual violence is an empowering and revolutionary act of self love. Check out this article for strategies on how to safely share your story.
Read More3 Stereotypes About Asians That Prevent These Domestic Violence Survivors from Getting Help
We all know that racial stereotypes are bad, but do we really understand what the effects of these stereotypes are? Racial stereotypes impact everything from personal relationships, to economic success. And for Asians and Pacific Islanders, they stand in the way of domestic violence survivors and the help they need. Here are three examples.
Read MoreHow Violence Against Women Hurts Men (And 20 Things Men Can Do About It)
In 2005 I came out as transgender and transitioned to male. I am much happier as a man, but in transitioning I moved from a class of people most likely to be victimized to a class of individuals more likely to victimize someone else. I had become the enemy. And that got me thinking: Why don’t more men see violence against women as their issue?
Read MoreAfter The Violence In My City, I Can’t Laugh Off Catcallers Anymore
I grew up learning that the only way to deal with bullies is to ignore them, the sort of I’m-rubber-you’re-glue rhetoric that conflict-avoiders love. To acknowledge a fear of catcalling strangers, even among friends, feels a bit like letting the bullies win. But I’m starting to realize that fear is a powerful weapon, too, in that it can unite people against a common enemy.
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