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I lived a very long time with the belief that my body was my enemy. I believed it had betrayed me, swallowed me up, and that the real me was deep down somewhere inside. Because I was a girl, self-hatred was part of my cultural inheritance. My life began when I stopped trying to lose weight and set my mind to losing hate. Because I only get one body, and I will fight for it, not against it.

With Obama’s proposals only a hazy shade more inclusive than the Senate’s plan is there any room for everyday people who aren’t lobbyists and professional activists to insert themselves? Is there political space for the policy framework that’s been proposed to be improved upon? Does your lone voice matter? The answer is yes, yes, yes! Read on to find out just how you can help as an average citizen.

Ever thought about how the US education system adds to stigma against mental illness and disability? Here are some ideas for what to do about it.

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You may have heard about the truth behind the “model minority” myth, but have you ever thought about how this myth creates a deceptive picture of Asian American and Pacific Islander mental health? Misconceptions float around both inside and outside of the AAPI community, leaving dangerous gaps in mental health treatment. Here’s why and how we need to fix this.

The world can be an exhausting place. We’re often told to do self-care “stuff” as if it was easy or as if they were enough to undo a day’s worth of stress. But at the same time, when you give and give, there will be nothing left if you don’t put something back. So here are ways to think about self-care that will work for you so you’ll have the energy to show up fully in your life.

What does it mean when someone says you’re “not the average Black girl?” Some people mean it as a compliment, but here’s one Black woman who’s not taking it that way. Catch Ernestine Johnson’s powerful words about why. She’s got the real deal on who the average Black girl really is, and why she’s so much more than the tired stereotype some people try to use to dismiss her.

“Myth #1: People with NPD are in love with themselves.” You might believe some of these myths about narcissistic personality disorder – so make sure you’re not perpetuating harmful stigma.

“Nobody should have that taken away from them.” Work life was going well for Tristan Broussard – until his employers learned he was transgender. Here’s what happened next.

Being happy in a relationship is nearly impossible if you feel unlovable. You’ll either ignore your needs and act from a place of keeping your partner happy rather than yourself or push your partner away in order to confirm your belief that you’re unlovable. But we all have flaws and being lovable doesn’t mean being perfect. So here are a few steps to help you believe that you are, indeed, lovable.

If you feel suicidal, you could use some support – but friends may not always be available. Here are some activities that probably are available. They’ve helped this author, and we hope they can help you, too.

Make no mistake: Paid sick days are a feminist issue. And they’re one of those job benefits you don’t realize you want until you suddenly need them. The ability to take time off when you or a family member is sick impacts your health, well-being, and financial security. You shouldn’t have to choose between your paycheck and your health.

Ever felt like your culture is “backwards” like this author did? Here’s a touching story of learning to love being a Filipina immigrant.

Do you know how it feels to live at the intersection of sexism and anti-black racism? These women share their struggles with workplace discrimination, police profiling, and more – with an affirming message of how they find hope.

You’ve seen the statuses (“I said YES!”) and the ring selfies (“He put a ring on it!”). You’ve also memorized the jewelry store slogans. Everyone, it’s here. It’s engagement season. And if engagement season makes you contemplate a swift death, you’ve come to the right place. Put the chocolate and wine away, because here are some healthy ways to sift through the engagement season frenzy.

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“At least it’s not…” The grief of infertility is hard to grasp – and this author has gotten many well-meaning responses that really hurt. Here’s her touching take on what it’s like to struggle with this loss.

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If you have thin privilege, and you want to fight fatphobia, what can you do? Here are some clear, practical, and powerful tips that can help.

Have you made any of these mistakes while trying to be chivalrous or kind? This comic explains where you went wrong – and how you can be kind without these common pitfalls.

“I’m so OCD about this!” It’s become way too common to use OCD as a “quirky” adjective. Check out this break-down of why it’s such a huge problem, and you’ll realize why we’ve got to be more thoughtful with our words.

We know you’re just trying to be supportive – but it’s not the genuine compliments that bother this author. Find out what the real problem is, and how you can show some real support instead.

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Are you one of those people who finds a new “body hate site” and posts it everywhere to validate your outrage? We understand – but here’s why that might not be the most effective strategy, with tips for better ways to deal.