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Why ‘Looking Like a Lesbian’ Isn’t an Insult (And How the Thought May Be a Reflection of Your Homophobia)
Why do so many straight girls think being seen as a lesbian is an insult? Unpacking the driving social forces behind the fear shows how we’ve been taught to cater to the male gaze. Here’s how to break the cycle, de-condition yourself from patriarchal beliefs about femininity, and eradicate lesbophobia and queerphobia among women. As long as you’re happy in your own skin, rock on.
Read MoreHow I Navigate Being Non-Binary in a Workplace That Tries to Erase My Gender
Gendered pronouns, gendered bathrooms, gendered greetings – how do you deal with binary expectations at work if you’re non-binary? Here’s how this author gets through.
Read MoreFeminism and Anxiety: How the Movement Changed My Relationship with My Mental Health
Feminism can change your relationship with your anxiety. Here is how it changed for this author.
Read More‘Selfie Surgery’ – How Do ‘Perfect’ Social Media Images Affect Our Self-Image?
Do you ever feel like everyone looks “perfect” on social media? There’s lots of pressure to come across that way – and this group of young people talks about how it affects them.
Read More4 Reasons Demanding ‘Objectivity’ in Social Justice Debates Can Be Oppressive
Have you ever had your perspective dismissed because you’re not “objective” enough about an issue that affects you? Glorifying so-called objectivity can actually be harmful, and here’s why.
Read More3 Things to Remind Yourself When Your Healing Process Is Going Slowly
If you’ve ever felt frustrated by how long you’re taking to heal from trauma or mental illness, you’ve got to read these affirming reminders.
Read More3 Questions We Ask Ourselves When Internalized Misogyny Warps Our Point of View
“Am I smart enough for this?” Even if you’re a woman, you might hold harmful ideas about what being a woman means. These ideas for what to ask yourself instead from Celia Edell can help.
Read MoreDo You Have A Social Media Addiction? Here’s How You Can Heal
I have a family history of drug and alcohol addiction and overcame an eating disorder that was rooted in the same constant desire for control, so it was actually painful to think of my social media habits as toxic and addictive.
Read MoreSociety Shames Poor Parents As ‘Bad’ Parents – Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Fall for It
Have you come across these common ideas of poor parents as irresponsible parents? This proves people don’t have to be affluent to be good parents.
Read MoreTrue Solidarity: Moving Past Privilege Guilt
There are many aspects of my identity that afford me privilege. I used to feel as if this meant I was a bad person, and I was trapped in shame. In time I came to realize that if privilege guilt prevents me from acting against oppression, then it is simply another tool of oppression. I had to find a way to move out of guilt if I wanted to make a difference.
Read More3 Common Myths About Gentrification – And the Facts That Prove We Need to Stop It
“Well, neighborhoods always change” is a common response to the subject of gentrification. But once you understand what gentrification really means, you won’t be saying that.
Read MoreDon’t Be a Racist for Halloween – Here’s Why Cultures Aren’t Costumes
You can do better than a costume based on a racist stereotype – Kat Blaque’s sharing why it’s so important that you do.
Read MoreI’m Losing Tons of Friends Fighting Racism – And I’m Totally Okay with That
Disagreeing over racism isn’t just a matter of a “difference of opinion.” You’ll understand why after reading what this author’s had to deal with.
Read More8 Facts About Race Every White Person Needs to Know to Help Fight Racism
We can’t move forward until more people understand this – and recent discussions show that so many people don’t. Here are some straight-forward facts to clear things up.
Read More6 Sexist, Racist, and Generally Messed Up Things We Hope The New Star Wars Films Get Right This Time
The Force Awakens is the most anticipated movie of 2015, and it’s essential that we make sure the next Star Wars installment gets it right. While racists have made their displeasure about the #blackstormtrooper known, we’re gearing up for the film with these six issues to correct. Use this list to call for a more inclusive galaxy, not a more racist, misogynistic one.
Read More5 Ways to Be Intersectional in the Fight Against Imposter Syndrome
Do you know who tends to get left out of common advice about imposter syndrome? Here’s how you can be more inclusive when you approach this issue.
Read MoreA Love Letter to Two Spirit and Native LGBTQIA+ Survivors of Corrective Rape
If you’re queer and Native, and you can relate this author’s experience of sexual violence, we hope this affirming letter reminds you that you’re not alone. Here’s what this survivor of corrective rape wishes someone had told them.
Read More4 ‘Compliments’ Trans People Don’t Need You to Make About Their Bodies
Even as a well-meaning trans ally, you might’ve said something hurtful with one of these “compliments.” Here’s the problem with them, and what you can say instead.
Read MoreYour Fat Stigma Is Racist – Here Are 6 Ways to Shift That
Have you noticed how white standards of beauty affect body image for people of color? Here’s how to shift fat positivity away from white supremacy.
Read MoreHow the 7 Stages of Grief Apply to Breakups (Because the Only Way Out Is Through)
“Crying forever,” I wrote on Facebook after updating my relationship status to Single. That’s how I felt – like the tears would never stop. I’d been through break-ups before; the pain didn’t last forever. But that’s hard to remember when you’re in the midst of it. It’s hard to remember that the only way out is through. So let me guide you through the layers of Hell known as The Stages of Grief.
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