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7 Ways Social Justice Language Can Become Abusive in Intimate Relationships
It’s dangerous when social justice ideas – the same ones that empower us – are used to harm people. Here are some signs that this is happening in your life or community.
Read More5 Reasons Why ‘Bad Asians’ Rock and ‘Positive’ Racial Stereotypes Need to Go
Do you consider yourself a “bad” example of an Asian like this author does? Here’s why so-called “positive” stereotypes aren’t very positive at all – and what you need to know to stand up to them.
Read More8 Tips for Trans Women of Color Who Are Considering Suicide
“Sometimes, it is all you can do to keep yourself breathing.” If you’re a trans woman of color who’s thinking about suicide, you’re not alone. Here are the lessons that helped this author keep breathing, even on the hardest days.
Read More10 Ways Your Social Justice Work Might Be Inaccessible and Elitist (And Why That’s a Problem)
“3. Using academic language when no one understands it.” Are you falling for the trap of activist elitism? Here’s how to tell if inaccessibility is hindering your anti-oppression work.
Read More12 Reasons Why There’s Orgasm Inequity (And No, It’s Not That Women Are ‘Harder to Please’)
Have you heard of “the orgasm gap?” Some people say it’s harder for women to have orgasms – but these statistics and cultural norms will convince you that there’s more to the story.
Read More10 Defensive Reactions to White Privilege That Make No Damn Sense – But Are Super Common
“You’re the real racist for talking about race!” You’ve probably come across some of these reactions denying white privilege – if you haven’t had them yourself.
Read MoreNot All Transgender People Have Dysphoria – And Here Are 6 Reasons Why That Matters
If you thought all trans people have this experience with their bodies, you’re not alone – even this author was skeptical at first. But you’ve got to find out what he learned for a deeper understanding of trans lives.
Read MoreWhat It’s Like for Gentrification to Kick You Out of Your Neighborhood
Gentrification is the process by which urban renewal displaces a poorer demographic of people with a richer one. That is, what looks at first glance to be great – hip restaurants! luxury apartments! new parks! – is hell for those living in that neighborhood. Watch this video to learn more about what the gentrification of San Francisco’s Mission District has done to those who called it home.
Read MoreA Feminist Approach to Good Loving in 5 Steps
Most articles about being a good lover begin with “How to Please Your Man” directives. Not this one. The heart of being a good lover starts with communication and self-awareness, making sure that you always carry a self-awareness and communication tool-kit. So here are a few more pointers that I’ve developed on how to take a feminist approach to good loving.
Read MoreI Really Want to Be Well: Healing Trauma is Central to My Feminist Practice
Many of us have been wounded by the violent patriarchal, heteronormative, and racist structures that are the pillars of capitalism, empire, and colonization. Many of us long to be free. Healing ourselves — body, spirit, and mind — is essential to feminism. We must bring radical love back to the center of our movements. Radical self-love and self-care are central components to social justice.
Read MoreNavigating Masculinity as a Black Transman: “I will never straighten out my wrist.”
I have gone from being a big, strong looking Black woman to being a young, lanky Black man. I have always carried with me both masculine and feminine energies, but I have often been forced to choose one over the other depending upon the space around me. The gender binary affects us all in detrimental ways. And while masculinity may seem to offer more room, it also has its limitations. We must make room for all genders to grow and move freely.
Read MoreSelf-Check: Holding Ourselves and Our Communities Accountable
Too many times, oppressed people use whatever power they have secured to oppress another instead of using that power to challenge the hierarchal order of things. Internalized racism, homophobia, transphobia, sexism, and misogyny are all alive and well and we must continue to battle those beasts within. We have to ask more of ourselves and the communities we are a part of.
Read MoreAn Open Letter to My Transgender Brothers
I write this to speak to transgender men who love, desire, and have sex with other men (cis and trans). I write to you with a request. It is not common to discuss the homophobia that exists within our trans men and queer boi communities, especially among those of us who are of color. So brothers, please let’s talk about it now before it’s too late.
Read MoreIf Our Freedom is Criminal, We Must Change the Laws
We must continue to run to freedom. We must continue to raze institutions that do not service our freedom. It is the knowing that we are running to freedom that causes so much anxiety and anger. It is the fear that we might know ourselves powerful and fierce, greater than any chain that tries to keep us bound. We must continue to rise, like dandelions.
Read MoreThese Super Cute Comics About Life As a ‘Trans Girl Next Door’ Will Make You Smile
We love these fun insights from Kylie Wu on what it’s like to affirm your gender – and we think you’ll love them, too.
Read MoreI Had Cancer – And Medical Fat-Shaming Could Have Killed Me
Fat shaming isn’t about helping people get healthier – and nothing makes that more clear than this terrifying story of a doctor’s awful choice that’s far too common.
Read MoreHere’s Why the Definition of Body Positivity Isn’t Up for Debate
Can you be body positive and encourage dieting? Some people are missing the point of body positivity, so let’s set the record straight.
Read MoreHere’s How Fatphobia Is Being Marketed to You – And Why So Many of Us Buy Into It
Example #1: “Selling fat loss as health.” People have been trained to be afraid of fat – but it’s time to be aware of how fatphobia is being sold to you for profit.
Read More4 Things Stopping Us From Ditching Diet Culture and How to Finally Let It Go
“Why are we so attached to our diets?” Diet culture is everywhere, spreading misinformation about what “healthy” means. But we must break free from diet culture’s influence – and here’s what’s in the way.
Read More3 Ways to Fight Diet Culture’s Toxic Messages and Love Yourself When Gaining Weight
We’re body-positive, but when it comes to our own bodies, it’s hard to shake off society’s body-shaming messages. Can you relate? These strategies can help you stay positive through your own body’s changes.
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