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Gossip is a form of emotional and verbal bullying that many people minimize. While you may not be pushing someone into a locker or stealing their milk money, it’s extremely hurtful to the target’s self esteem, mental health and friendships. Learn some tips on how to speak out against it.

Do you ever feel like your activism is asking too much from you? Intersectional feminism can feel like a lot to take on, but this comic shows how it’s the key to balancing self-care with looking out for others.

I signed myself and my youngest daughter up for a self-defense class a few years ago. All I really wanted out of it was the ability to have a few tools to prevent me from freezing should I ever need to defend myself. I got that and a lot more that Saturday afternoon (Trigger Warning).

As Black women in America, we’ve been taught that aspects of our physical self are unacceptable in their natural forms. As such, they should be relegated to the privacy of our bathrooms — or better yet, transformed into tamed, relaxed, and otherwise invisible alternatives. And our transition to invisibility for the sake of appropriateness spans a lifetime.

If you spend any time on the Internet, you’ve likely participated in the conversation about weight and body image. “Lose weight and look great!” “Love your body just the way it is!” I find both messages tiresome. Where in this “conversation” is there room for individuals to have their own feelings, independent of what other women (and men) insist is the “correct” way to think about one’s body?

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Anti-racist white people sometimes make the mistake of forgetting to work directly with other white people. This article breaks down why that’s important.

I look at my oldest girl and I see what she is experiencing. Her body is transitioning, and she’s particularly concerned and curious about her new bouncy parts that garner attention from a variety of eyes. And as I watch my daughter navigate her new body, I’ve identified some methods to creating support and raising confident, mindful, fully expressed women.

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You judge people. But how many of the judgments that you make about other people based on appearances alone are likely to be accurate, kind, or worthwhile when they don’t meet the standards you place on yourself? If you’re someone who’s still struggling with these negative thoughts, here are some things to think about when it comes to judging and accepting body diversity.

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Is it possible to recognize, reconcile, and rejoice your bisexuality as a black woman, amidst all the forces working against you? This author says yes.

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When she was being abused, she only found advice on how to leave an abusive partner. But if you’re not ready to leave, here are some tips on how to care for yourself in these difficult times.

Actress Kristen Stewart stands against a gray background with her hands behind her head, wearing a Clash t-shirt

You might see “girl hate” as just being catty, but there are some disturbing parallels here. Find out how tearing down other girls hurts all women.

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What happens when you’ve been immersed in anti-racism, and then you spend time with a family that’s not as engaged in social justice? Here are some tips for the best possible justice-centered conversations with your family.

Certain memories of my father stick out on my mind. I remember how he joked that he liked women who looked cheap. I remember I rolled my eyes and laughed with him, I didn’t find it funny at all. Because what did it mean for me, a girl just past puberty, hoping to be wanted by the world? What would I have to do to get love and attention? Who would I have to be?

Some people might say you look “tired” without makeup, others would say to go for a “natural” look – but at the end of the day, why is anyone trying to tell you what to do with your face?

The male gaze is a lens of entitlement. And challenging it is an integral part of feminism. Here are four ways to start.

More than ever, the millenial generation has eagerly embraced the “sad chic” mentality. We worship existentialism as long as it has shiny packaging, with pretty people saying poetic things. Soft grunge basically transforms taboo emotions into an aesthetic. This appropriation of mental illness is troubling, and this is where the commodification and idolization of soft grunge becomes a problem.

It’s so tempting to boil aging down into some bleak list of things you can’t do any more. It’s weird how quickly we adjust to and accept the daily paring away of our physical prowess. But that youthful self is still vibrant within me, and I’m working to bring the essence of him forward in some form, a gift to the old man I’ll become in fifteen years or so.

In this week’s video headline, Jay Smooth explains the two ways to approach calling someone out on their racist commentary. He demonstrates why one is effective, why the other derails conversation, and how to recognize the difference. He posits that there is a difference between saying, “you did something racist,” and “you are a racist,” and encourages you to stick to the first approach.