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10 Ways Well-Meaning White Teachers Bring Racism Into Our Schools
We love teachers – so this author’s offering great tips for improving your teaching practice by paying more critical attention to race in our schools. If you’ve made any of these mistakes, here’s what you can do instead.
Read MoreQuit Pretending You Care About My Struggles When You Tone Police My Anger
“I know what you’re going through is hard, but…” If you’re ever tempted to tell someone they’re too angry about oppression, stop right now and read this.
Read MorePut Out Internalized Racism: Why Solidarity Between People of Color Matters
When people of color internalize racism and become self-hating, they have made a mental link between worth and whiteness. When we strip ourselves of that lie, we can start to see ourselves as whole rather than deficient. And only when we see our wholeness and understand that we’re worth fighting for can we advance any movement that holds the best interests of people of color at heart.
Read MoreI Know I’m Queer — Now What?
I’ve seen many wonderful articles that discuss questioning and defining your sexual orientation. However, there is a comparative lack of guidance when it comes to actually deciding what to do with such an epiphany. Just take a deep breath and remember to take things at your own pace. You know you’re queer – now let’s focus on what happens next.
Read More30 Examples of Alternative Learning – And Why I Chose This for My Black Daughters
Do you know about the negative impact that traditional schools can have on children? There are other options – here are some great alternatives that work for this author’s family.
Read MoreFat Men Are a Feminist Issue
Fatphobia in so many ways is about hating and policing women and our bodies, but what I’ve realized recently is that the fatphobia that fat men experience is also a result of misogyny. I have found many themes that pointed to fatphobia toward men, at its roots, being about anxiety that men were becoming woman-like. Ultimately, I believe that the treatment of fat men is a feminist issue.
Read MoreIn Under 2 Minutes, These Teens Say Everything You Need to Know About Microaggressions
Can you relate to any of their stories? And did you know about all the harm these moments can cause?
Read MoreExamining 12 ‘Good Fatty’ Archetypes We Depend On
“Good fatty” is usually used to describe a fat person who at least believes in the socially constructed viewpoint that their number one goal in life should be losing weight. But upon closer inspection, there are a few “good fatty” archetypes that we, as a society, depend on – all with their own unique purposes in the fat-antagonistic machine. Here are twelve to consider in your activism.
Read MoreA Reality Check for Your Typical ‘White Men Aren’t the Enemy’ Objection
If you’re a white guy who’s ever frustrated enough to say “not all men,” this info on what you’re missing about identity is written just for you.
Read MoreAre You Raising a Bully Bystander? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
Steubenville is a horrific example of the bystander effect. But what if your kid is a bystander to teasing, to name calling, to social ostracizing – behaviors that some refer to as “kids being kids?” Have you addressed that? Are you sure you’ve modeled the proper way not to stand by? Let’s look at some ways parents might inadvertently be supporting bystanders.
Read More10 Not-So-Feminist Things We Feminists Do in Comments Sections
“Wait, aren’t these the same people who are supposed to be about equality?” These reveal some seriously troubling issues in our movements.
Read More9 Signs That Your Body Positivity Could Be More Open-Minded
Think fat people are “okay” as long as they’re healthy? That’s just one of the signs that you’re not as body positive as you might think.
Read MoreSo You Got Called Out on Social Media By Someone More Marginalized Than You
Defensive, angry, confused – getting called out can bring up all kinds of feelings. Here’s a smart feminist guide to what to do (and NOT do) when it happens.
Read MoreAn Explanation for Why It’s Not Just Men Who Pressure Women Into Feminine Norms
It’s not as simple as men pressuring women to be feminine – we police each other and shame ourselves all the time. Here’s why we can’t escape the judgment.
Read More4 Hints Your Approaches to Empowering Black Communities Are Actually Harmful
“#3: Your approach creates a hierarchy among black people.” Do you know how to spot if you’re using respectability politics? These signs suggest you may do more harm than good.
Read MoreMy Experience with Sex After 50 Has Been Both a Struggle and a Gift
This is a fascinating account of how one woman’s body and desires changed with aging. Does her story give you a new perspective on sex after 50?
Read MoreHow the Beauty Bias Makes Us Treat ‘Pretty’ People Better
Do you look anything like the people deemed “most beautiful” by magazines? Here’s how the beauty bias might be getting to you – and what to do about it.
Read More10 Examples of Straight Privilege
We still live in a society where straight people have more rights, power, and freedom. Here’s how straight privilege comes into play.
Read MoreWhy I Reject the Racist Myth of the Absent Black Father
This is an incredibly damaging myth, and it overshadows the reality of Black fatherhood in the US. Here’s the truth, and how you can help dismantle this lie.
Read More7 Lies That Can Make You Think It’s Okay to Judge Women Who Like Sex
If you’re feeling okay about judging a “promiscuous” woman because of these myths, you need to know the truth behind them.
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