I’ve had this experience a million times. It’s one of the complicated realities that come along with being a progressive-minded person: The jokes just aren’t as funny anymore. When we can see the humanity behind the people who these jokes target, and when we understand the implications of the privileged laughing at the marginalized, we lose our ability to laugh at their expense.

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“I mean it as a compliment when I notice you’ve lost weight!” Okay. But just because you’re well-intentioned doesn’t mean what you say doesn’t have a harmful impact. I know your perception of me might have changed because you’re socialized to believe smaller is better, but there are better ways to behave when you notice someone has lost weight.

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Whether it’s an everyday problem or a big life decision, turning to someone else for support and advice can feel uncomfortable and awkward. But listening and giving advice is equally tricky. Helping a loved one through a difficult time can be tough. It’s important to be conscious of your words and actions. Let’s discuss the everyday phrases that might give the wrong impression to a friend in need.

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Hello, fellow men. I get what you’re saying. You feel like it’s unfair of a woman to assume that your intention is malicious whenever you tell her that she’s beautiful. You weren’t trying to offend her. Harassment? No, that’s not what you meant at all. But just because you didn’t mean to doesn’t mean you’re not somewhere on the harassment spectrum.

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We can lay the groundwork for the children we love for good health and truly empowered living. Here, we look those aspects of protecting children that are slightly beyond the basics: the more subtle, on-going interactions that strengthen our children, influence their decision making, impact their safety, and, hopefully, contribute to a safer and saner society.

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Invalidating responses to male pregnancy are common, which can lead trans men to internalize the belief that it’s not acceptable to both be a man and desire pregnancy. But many of those responses are based on misconceptions and assumptions. So here are the deeper realities. With this knowledge, we can move beyond the limits of what’s “acceptable” for a man.

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