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Why Not Say Everyday Humanism Instead of Everyday Feminism?
Humanism and feminism are not mutually exclusive and can coexist. A vested interest in general human welfare is an implicit goal of feminism. If you’re helping women, you’re helping people. Some might prefer to call this humanitarianism, humanism, or being-a-decent-human-being-ism, but many of us are content to call it feminism. And there’s nothing exclusionary about that.
Read MoreReady to Ditch White Feminism? 6 Black Feminist Concepts You Need to Know
If you don’t recognize yourself in white feminism, you’re not the only one. These Black feminist concepts show that we have other options.
Read MoreGrowing Up Black and Non-Binary – Finding Liberation Beyond the Gender Binary
“It’s okay to live your truth exactly how it looks.” From an early age, this author didn’t feel right trying to fit the binary of “man” or “woman.” This is a moving story of connecting with identity outside of society’s norms.
Read MoreThis Woman Just Crushed Society’s Sexist Expectations in One Awesome Poem
What could you do with this kind of gumption?
Read MoreHow Rape Has Become a Staple of American Culture
Rape songs, rape jokes, rape scenes. It’s alarming to recognize how much rape is embedded in United States culture. To change this, we have to speak up about it – which is exactly what these awe-inspiring poets did. With this spoken word piece, witness the fierce courage it takes to stand up to rape culture, call out the offending songs, and stop singing along. [Trigger Warning]
Read More5 Essential Things to Remember When You Respond to Getting Called Out Online
How do you feel when you’re criticized or called out for something you’ve said or shared online? Considering these thoughts before you reply can help you find the most effective, self-sustaining response.
Read MoreWhy We Act to Stop Street Harassment
I was lying in bed when suddenly, I heard a blood-curdling scream. “STOP IT!” the voice said. “PLEASE, STOP IT.” Thankfully some bystanders stopped the man who had his arms around the woman’s neck from behind. I soon learned that he had attacked her because she didn’t respond favorably to his street harassment. And there are still people who say it’s not a legitimate issue?!? (Trigger warning)
Read MoreThe Latest War on Women: Online Harassment
The Internet is very much a public space – with all of the same sexism, racism, homophobia, and transphobia of our streets, but often, much worse. Women are the targets of a lot of this ugliness. Not unlike street harassment in the way we feel its hovering, ominous presence and the way it can control our actions — or at least try to — online harassment is an issue to be taken seriously.
Read MoreRespectability Politics Won’t Get Us Half as Far
There’s this unspoken pressure within the black community to present a “respectable” image of blackness at all times. And I get that. We want to be represented, we want to be valued, and we want to be seen as human, and when we know that we as a race are being denigrated for whatever reason, we want to push back against that. But that’s bullshit. Here’s why.
Read More4 Ways Smaller Fat Bodies Are Crowding the Conversation on Fat Acceptance
What happens when fat activism focuses on smaller fat bodies? Here’s some of the harm that’s caused when bigger bodies aren’t centered.
Read MoreComing Out As Queer Is Even More Complicated For A Fat Person
This article was originally published on The Establishment and republished here with the author’s permission. I came out as fat to myself about five years ago. I also came out as bisexual to myself around the same time. Both were gradual and mutual processes. “I think that there is a coming out process around being fat that…
Read MoreWhy Your Disbelief in My Queer Identity Doesn’t Negate Its Existence
One of the most obnoxious forms of ignorance that LGBTQ people face is identity policing, which often manifests as other people providing “theories” to explain your sexuality. Being queer means that people always feel entitled to an explanation — or worse, they think they know better. Let’s go through the various, ridiculous incarnations of queer identity police.
Read MoreAin’t I A Man: Being Black and Gay in a World that Honors Neither
Recently, an acquaintance invited me to a party. “It’s just for women and we will have a male stripper, but you can come since you’re gay.” I politely declined. Black, gay, and recently married are just a few of my identities. Identities are constantly changing and are largely self-created. Allies need to fully understand, respect, and encourage this belief.
Read MoreWomen: What Would Happen if You Weren’t Afraid to Make a Scene?
(Content Warning: Sexual assault) Have you ever ignored something awful because saying something would cause a scene? Women are taught to put people at ease and be liked – but this can make us prioritize the comfort of others over our own needs. This article can inspire you to do the opposite: to make a scene when it’s necessary to take care of your needs. You deserve to take care of you.
Read More8 Helpful Comebacks to Use When Someone Is Being Transphobic
“It’s biology.” Two of our faves – Franchesca Ramsey and Kat Blaque – teamed up for these awesome responses.
Read More5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Women Who Don’t Want Children
The belief that women can’t be complete without children lingers and leads to some pretty ignorant statements. Here are some we shouldn’t be saying.
Read More4 Reasons I’m a ‘Successful’ Queer Cartoonist (That Have Nothing to Do With Skill)
Is “the dream” only within reach for certain people? Turns out the path to success is less universal than you might think.
Read MoreMore Men Should Learn The Difference Between Masculinity and Toxic Masculinity
This article originally appeared in The Huffington Post. It was lightly edited and reposted here with the author’s permission. Google “toxic masculinity” and you’re likely to stumble across Ben Shapiro’s National Review article The ‘Toxic Masculinity’ Smear, where he discusses the Left’s war on masculinity and manhood. If you can power through the part where he…
Read MoreTop 3 Signs You May Need a Break from the Feminist Blogosphere
Here are some symptoms of Internet Feminism Burnout that mean you might need to take it easy for a bit.
Read MoreNavigating Gender Norms with My Transgender Daughter
This author wasn’t always sure how to support her transgender daughter. But through writing about giving her daughter agency and helping her navigate gender roles, this mom can help other parents who are also struggling.
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