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I used to be overcome with guilt at the thought of being an artist, a writer since it doesn’t guarantee status or a regular paycheck. Having worked as migrant laborer since a child, I grew up associating my worth with work and writing as gratuitous and useless. Since then I’ve been figuring out how to follow my dreams. I’m not fully living off of my art yet but I’d like to pass on some advice that have helped me.

What are we going to do with Donald Trump as president? It may feel hard to find answers – so here’s an honest, compelling take.

Have you ever been defined through a calm waters lens? You know the type, right? That “Why does she always have to make shit so uncomfortable for everybody by speaking out?” type. Surely, there are moments when the best thing to do is to shut up and wait for safety. But don’t default to that logic, because your safety and your enslavement aren’t always the only two choices you have.

How does essentialist feminism hurt women and feminist causes? Why liberating women by embracing a “true nature” isn’t liberating at all.

If you’re giving out advice to “just go to therapy,” you might be making one of these harmful assumptions.

The silence of a missing young girl named Relisha Rudd, of the 276 Nigerian school girls half a world away from her, and of the thousands of child sufferers of abuse, assault, and abduction unwillingly call us to a greater understanding of how to protect our young. Thankfully, experts in violence against children — and survivors of childhood violence — are speaking up.

Don’t let your cellulite, wrinkles, sagging skin, or whatever else hold you back from living a full and active and awesome life. Don’t let media convince you that those body characteristics are shameful, gross, or anything other than 100% normal, healthy, and part of a truly beautiful reality. Let’s redefine beauty for ourselves by making it more inclusive of reality — warts, er…dimples, and all!

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“I knew something was very wrong.” This chilling story shows the devastating impact revenge porn can have – and how one woman got through it without internalizing shame.

As important as self-care can be, for many of us, communal care is equally as vital. Healing community is about holding space: holding space for love, care, reflection, laughter, crying, feeling what we’re feeling, dancing, screaming, sorting through, moving past, sitting with, or for whatever else we may need.

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Ever wonder why we should bother helping abusers, or what helps them change? Here are some answers from inside intimate partner violence offender treatment.

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What have you heard about transexual people living in “stealth?” Misconceptions about “passing” are common among everyone – including cis and straight folks, LGBQIA+ people, and other trans people. These false ideas undermine the very valid reasons why transexuals make their own choices about how they show up in the world. Here’s an article to help us get it right.

Being a first-generation college student is hard. You don’t have the same access or resources as your peers, AND you might find yourself feeling disconnected from your family or place of origin. This article provides some great ideas that will not only help make the process feel easier and more safe, they will also help hold you accountable to your new privilege.

I’m a rape and sexual assault survivor. For almost two years, I was in an emotionally, sexually, and physically violent friendship that frequently crossed my boundaries and made me feel unsafe. It took time for me to heal from what happened and relearn that the situation wasn’t my fault. My abuser never took full accountability…

Sometimes, reclaiming culture can also mean self-stereotyping. And doing so can further perpetuate narrow and harmful conceptions of who we are.

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Have you ever met someone who treated Latinx culture like this author’s classmate did? Here are some of the ways Latinxs with class (and often education) privilege can cause harm through classism.

You know it’s bad when an autistic person dreads every Autism Awareness Month. Let’s do better as allies with these tips.

Have you ever done something that contributed to patriarchal oppression, even after finding feminism? Ever criticized a woman for her looks, or shaved your body hair? I know I have. We all can be complicit in our own oppression. It’s not always other people or other genders that are responsible for sexism. Sometimes, it’s actually you. Hear me out.

There’s a narrative around hookup culture that lends to victim-blaming – and it can even lead victims to blame themselves. Here’s what needs to change.

I once was at the United Nations for a conference when one of the white attendees got up and declared that she was organizing a conference on abuse against Muslim and Arab women (they’re not the same thing, but who cares?). She went on and on about how there is no platform for them to talk…

It is absolutely OK to be whatever size you are, including hella fat. It is absolutely fine to not be “healthy” or “strong” by whatever definition.