How Not to Make Love to a Fat Girl

People — and in this context, women — are more than just their body parts: their fat, their bellies, their thighs, their skin.

When you’re attracted to a fat person (or any one who has a marginalized body or identity), and they invite you to share sexual intimacy with them, don’t objectify or fetishize them. As this poet says, “Make love to the whole of them.

If you’re intimidated by the stigma, or unsure of yourself, be vulnerable and open-hearted and ask questions. Ask your partner what they desire and don’t desire. Allow them to teach you how they want to be treated.

Learn their boundaries and get consent. Not only is consent required, but it allows for the sort of physical and emotional safety necessary for intimate connection to truly be fulfilling for all parties involved.

“Trust me, you’ll get luckier this way.”

With Love,
The Editors at Everyday Feminism



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Yesika Salgado is a poet by day, astronaut by night, Salvadorian Fly/Fat/Brown Girl all the time. You can follow her on Twitter at @YesikaStarr. Video courtesy of Button Poetry. For more amazing spoken word performances, check them out on YouTube and Facebook.