Are You Called ‘Whipped’ or Committed? Our Sexist Double Standards For Dating

March 21, 2016 / Ronnie Ritchie

Have you had to deal with our society’s double standards when it comes to commitment in relationships?

This comic reveals how much other people’s interpretations of whether we’re “whipped” or “committed” depend on how they perceive our gender – and why these gender roles are toxic.

Share this to remind the people in your life that independence and compromise aren’t “masculine” or “feminine” traits – and why it’s harmful to assume they are,

With Love,
The Editors at Everyday Feminism

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Panel 1

(A feminine person with grey hair in a braid stands in front of a stove, pan and wooden spoon in hand, looking back at a comment appearing from off-panel.)

Comment: You cooked dinner for him? You’re so committed!

Panel 2

(A bald masculine person sits on a couch.)

Comment: You let him have the TV when the game was on? You’re so whipped!

Panel 3

(A feminine person with long dark hair and a graphic of an Ojibwe medicine wheel on their shirt sits in a wheel chair, avoiding eye contact.)

Comment: You prioritize her pleasure even though it takes significantly longer for you to reach orgasm? You’re so committed!

Panel 4

(A masculine person with dark curly hair and a sweater peels an orange.)

Comment: You’re eating more fruits and vegetables because they are keeping more around the house? You’re so whipped!

Panel 5

(A feminine person with styled-up short hair changes a child’s diaper.)

Comment: You stay at home with the kids even though you have a higher education and better job opportunities? You’re so committed!

Panel 6

(A masculine person with dark wavy hair and tattoo sleeves stands, one hand in a pocket and another resting on a cane, looking awkward.)

Comment: You’re letting her date other people? You’re so whipped!

Panel 7

(A feminine person rubs their arm, looking deeply uncomfortable.)

Comment: You’re staying with them even though they constantly belittle you? You’re so committed!

Panel 8

(The person from panel 5 suddenly turns to the reader, addressing them, arms crossed.)

Person: It’s almost like compromise is considered an entirely feminine trait, and independence entirely masculine, rather than both being something that everyone needs a balance of to make relationships work.

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Ronnie Rene Ritchie is a Contributing Comic Artist for Everyday Feminism, an illustrator, and storyteller working out of Peterborough, Ontario. Since graduating from the Pacific Northwest College of Art in Portland, Oregon with a BFA in Illustration, Ronnie has had work featured in galleries and sex shops across North America, and their autobiographical webcomic, GQutie, has seen its popularity soar online. Learn more about GQutie, Ronnie’s illustration, or follow them on Twitter @ronithebear.