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My Ex-Husband Used Religion As an Excuse to Abuse Me
She tried to be a “good Christian wife,” but her ex-husband and his family had a disturbing idea of what that meant.
Read MoreThe Dangers of Dating Faux Feminist Men
“Do I have to break up with him?” What does it mean to date a man who’s got all the feminist lingo down, but fails to live by feminist values?
Read More5 Amazing Love Scenes Where Pop Culture Got Consent Exactly Right
Steven Universe, Frozen, Buffy – while pop culture often gets consent very wrong, check out these examples of how some of our faves have gotten it right.
Read MoreIs It Your Responsibility to Educate a Person You’re Dating On Race and Racism?
Ever had a partner who just didn’t “get it” when the topic of race comes up? Here are some common scenarios you might come across – and how to deal.
Read More3 Practical Ways to Challenge Gender Norms in Heterosexual Marriages
We’re so used to our society’s traditional gender roles that we can’t expect to get rid of them without putting some thought into it. These ideas can really help.
Read More4 Reasons I Talk About ‘Virginities’ Instead of ‘Virginity’
The concept of virginity is harmful in many ways – but here’s one option that changed this author’s approach for the better. Find out how the idea of multiple virginities helps her.
Read More3 Feminist Ways to Communicate Mindfully in Your Personal Relationships
Do you notice your patterns of communication with others? This author didn’t used to pay much attention to hers, but she’s learned a lot since then – and here are the lessons that could make a big difference in your relationships.
Read More12 Signs Your Date Is Sexist – Because ‘You’re Not Like Most Girls’ Is Not A Compliment
How do you look out for sexism when you’re dating? It can be hard to spot, so here are some subtle cues that may warn you to reconsider a next date with the person showing these signs.
Read MoreYour 6-Step Feminist Guide to Respectfully Flirting with Asian Women
“Where are you really from?” Often, when non-Asian folks try to flirt with Asian women, it’s like they’re responding a racist stereotype. Here’s how to avoid that, with some ideas for what to do instead.
Read More3 Reasons Dating, Attraction, and Desire Are Always Political
Many of us learn that attraction is innate – but do you know how desirability politics can create some oppressive beauty standards? Here’s why we have to recognize this influence in our lives.
Read More5 Ways to Maintain Your Queer Identity in a Relationship People Read as Straight
It can feel pretty invalidating to have your queer identity erased when people refer to your relationship as “straight.” These suggestions can help you celebrate your queerness, no matter who you’re with.
Read More7 Ways Social Justice Language Can Become Abusive in Intimate Relationships
It’s dangerous when social justice ideas – the same ones that empower us – are used to harm people. Here are some signs that this is happening in your life or community.
Read MorePolyamorous Dating: 5 Tips For Dealing With Jealousy
“But don’t you get jealous?” This is often one of the first questions about polyamory, and it’s true that jealousy can be tricky to navigate. If you’re polyamorous, these helpful tips can give you the tools you need.
Read MoreWhy We Must Stop Believing Pain and Illness Are Punishments for Our Mistakes
This author knew how healing was “supposed” to look – and she internalized the messages that she had to “fix” herself to deserve love and wellness. If you can relate, these touching reflections are for you.
Read More8 Things to Consider in Polyamorous Dating Before Committing to Another Partner
If you’re non-monogamous, in a relationship, and considering entering a new relationship, you might not find much info on how to navigate your situation. Try asking yourself these questions.
Read More‘When You Realize He Has Yellow Fever’ – A Comedian’s Take on Asian Fetishes
“I didn’t figure out my limits with white guys until my third date with this guy.” Have you ever had this experience? Here’s comedian Jenny Yang’s reenactment of a terrible case of “yellow fever” for Asian women.
Read More15 Comments Polyamorous People Are Tired of Getting
These responses to non-monogamy are super common – even from people who don’t mean to be judgmental. Do any of them cover your response to polyamory?
Read More5 Myths About Love, Sex, and Relationships That Stop Us From Accepting Polyamory
The more questions this author gets about polyamory, the more she’s realized that society tells us a lot of heteronormative lies about love – and polyamorous folks aren’t the only ones who get mistreated as a result. Here’s the affirming truth.
Read More5 Radical Ways People Do Non-Monogamy That You Need to Know About
You might know about the type of non-monogamy that gets most mainstream media attention. But do you know these other relationship styles outside the status quo?
Read More5 Reasons We Need to Ditch the Idea of ‘The Friendzone’ for Good
You can probably think of a few issues with the “friendzone” concept. But these common myths about sex and relationships show what we’re really dealing with in a society that’s come up with this idea.
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