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It’s easy to say you’re a male ally and a feminist. What’s not so easy is checking your privilege, making a deliberate effort to use your privilege in a constructive way, and giving up oppressive behaviors. But that’s what being a male feminist means. Check out this cartoon to see what it looks like when allies talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk.

We can’t determine who has a disability simply from appearance. So how can we be allies in everyday life for people with invisible disabilities? These will help.

Do you know what it’s like to be bisexual when people assume you must be gay or straight? This article breaks down the damaging result of bi erasure, and shows how to be a better ally to bisexual people.

Did you hear how American Idol tried to “include” transgender contestants? Or how Jose Canseco planned to “understand” Caitlyn Jenner? Kat Blaque’s got the scoop on what fake allyship looks like.

These people who fetishize trans women and pose as allies may use flowery social justice language – but something’s very wrong with this picture.

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For a deeper understanding of what it means to be trans, here’s some next-level information that even people who know the basics are missing. Does this answer any of your questions about trans lives?

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This author’s actually glad to have this conversation about the mistakes you’re making as an ally – because learning is what it’s all about. Here’s to more growth!

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“How could I be a racist?” Maybe you can relate to this author – and you’ve been called out for racism when you didn’t think you were being racist. Here’s why oppression is about a system – not just your intentions.

It’s not enough for employers to process smooth transitions for their employees, they must adjust their employee evaluation systems to account for systemic sexism or risk losing their trans employees in the long run.

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“You don’t believe you could ever be that beautiful.” Do you ever feel discouraged about not “passing” as a cis woman? This author has some inspiring words on how to find self-love as a non-passing trans woman.

Did you catch the trailer for the Stonewall movie? Kat Blaque’s sharing what was really going on the night of Stonewall and why it matters – and she knows some people aren’t going to like what she has to say.

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Much of this can be useful for other queer folks, too. Know this: “You’re not weak; you’re not flawed; this is truly challenging.”

There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap on how to romance transgender women. But it’s important to honor trans women’s humanity by recognizing that, behind all of the activism and social apprehension, many trans women also desire fulfilling romantic relationships. Here are some ways you can support your lover in public, in private, and in bed.

The story of his birth is a horrifying example of racism – and that was only the beginning. Here’s why he’s not trying to be a “good minority” anymore.

“#3. Good Fatties diet.” The “Good Fatty” is the fat person people will tolerate – and the pressure to be one can cause a lot of harm. Here’s how this author’s unlearning these toxic “Good Fatty” lessons.

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This author’s working on unlearning anti-Blackness, and they’ve got some important insights to share about why this is so important for Asian Americans. Have you noticed these ways anti-Blackness goes unchecked?

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Let’s be real: “You’re too pretty to be gay” isn’t really a compliment. This author’s got some hilarious commentary on why – and some effective strategies for dealing with the awkwardness.

What does it mean to “look” straight or queer? It really doesn’t mean anything – but we make assumptions about people’s orientation all the time. Here’s a touching account of why this issue matters.

Do you ever talk about what it means to be a “man”? Not a lot of us do. The patriarchy sets the harmful expectation that men aren’t supposed to talk about their feelings or display any kind of emotion. Here’s a chance for men to talk about masculinity and remember, as one man in this video puts it, that “there’s no right way to be a guy.” So what makes you a man?

Dear cis men, there’s plenty of room for you in the feminist movement. But first, you must remember that feminism was created to address the unique oppression that women have historically faced, while acknowledging how overwhelmingly present that oppression still is and the many ways in which you benefit from it. Check out this article for more ally protocols.