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4 Important Reasons Why Disability Visibility Matters
This author’s actively choosing to be visibly disabled. What does that mean? Read this and you’ll know why disability visibility is an act of radical love.
Read MoreA Love Letter to All The Feminists Who Don’t ‘Look Like’ Feminists
Do you fit the internal stereotypes of what a feminist supposedly “looks” like? We don’t all need to be the same kind of feminist, and this ode to the “uncool kids” of feminism is for you.
Read More50 Shades of Abuse: 10 Signs of Unhealthy Relationships a la Christian Grey
There are a lot of reasons why folks are up-in-arms about “50 Shades of Grey.” Here are ten ways that the book (and their subsequent film) shows clear signs of abuse – especially emotional abuse, which can be harder to pinpoint if you’re not sure which red flags to pay attention to. Use this article as a guide for thinking through the relationship in “50 Shades.”
Read MoreStop Thinking Like a Perpetrator: 4 Ways to Better Support Survivors of Sexual Violence
Despite progress in raising awareness of sexual violence, there are still those who attempt to lay people’s trauma on a spectrum with one end being “shut up, it’s not that bad” and the other end being “legitimate rape.” All this ends up doing is denying the pain of survivors. Here are four important things we need to do in order to abandon perpetrator logic.
Read MoreYes, Very Skinny Women Still Have Thin Privilege – Here’s Why
Are you being oppressed if people say you need to “eat a cheeseburger” because you’re thin? Yes – but it’s more complicated than saying thin privilege doesn’t exist.
Read MoreHere Are 6 Ways That Girls Are Taught They Shouldn’t Ask Guys Out (And Why They Should Do It Anyway)
What century are we in again? Tired gender roles still hold a lot of us back in the dating world, but here’s why they don’t have to.
Read More100 Everyday Ways That Feminism Has Changed My Life
“Feminism is my operating system.” When you add them all up, this is a POWERFUL impact! How has feminism changed your life?
Read MoreWhat’s So Feminist About Yoga? Here Are 4 Amazing Connections
If you’re thinking of the mainstream Western yoga industry, you might think that yoga is not feminist. Here’s an approach that shows the two go hand-in-hand.
Read MoreWays to Prevent Sexual Violence
Here’s a lesson for any cause: If we don’t get to the root of the issue, all we’re doing is pulling some individuals to safety while losing others. In combatting sexual violence, we must work to help survivors heal, seek justice, and find the new normal in their life, but that cannot be our only work. We must prevent sexual violence before it happens. But how do we do that? What does it look like?
Read More4 Reasons Why We Need to Drop ‘You Must Be Doing Something Right!’
If you do social justice work, you’ve undoubtedly suffered your fair share of abuse. And if you’ve been vocal about it, people have likely told you that “you must be doing something right” if people are angry. And I get their point. But sometimes, it doesn’t feel comforting. Here are some reasons why you might want to drop “you must be doing something right!”
Read MoreWhy Our Feminism Must Be Intersectional (And 3 Ways to Practice It)
Those of us calling for an inclusive feminism aren’t the ones being “divisive.” But those of us refusing to acknowledge the need for intersectionality in feminism are.
Read MoreCultural Appropriation In Fiction: Here Are Some Tips To Consider When Your Writing Includes Different Cultures
The cushion that is fiction can lead writers to support their stories with the argument that it’s a made-up reality, that is, that it’s just a movie, just a TV show, just a book. But it’s never “just.”
Read More3 Ways to Fight Diet Culture’s Toxic Messages and Love Yourself When Gaining Weight
We’re body-positive, but when it comes to our own bodies, it’s hard to shake off society’s body-shaming messages. Can you relate? These strategies can help you stay positive through your own body’s changes.
Read MoreWhat to Expect When You’re Expecting… And Gay
So you’re going to be a gay parent? Congratulations! Don’t worry. This isn’t going to be one of those typical posts that tells you to stock up on diapers and learn CPR. I wanted to write this post specifically for you, the expectant gay parent, because there’s a whole lot of important parenting stuff they’re not going to cover in those baby classes that applies directly to you.
Read MoreThe Danger of What Happens When Toxic Masculinity Fails Men
Society’s idea of what makes a “real man” creates toxic expectations for men. Here’s the disturbing result, with a promising idea for how we can change the traditional – and violent – definition of masculinity.
Read More5 Ways ‘Respectability Politics’ Blame Black Women for Their Own Oppression
Your appearance, your emotions, your sexuality and more – have you learned any of these lessons in respectability politics? This info helped this author start to unlearn the racist self-hatred – and it might help you do the same.
Read MoreI Had Cancer – And Medical Fat-Shaming Could Have Killed Me
Fat shaming isn’t about helping people get healthier – and nothing makes that more clear than this terrifying story of a doctor’s awful choice that’s far too common.
Read MoreThis Is Exactly Why We Need the Leadership of Trans Women of Color
Are you impacted by or wanting do something about the life-threatening conditions working against transgender women of color? Then you need Lourdes Ashley Hunter’s voice in your life. Here, she celebrates Black and Brown trans and gender non-conforming identities and lives, and shares what we all need to know about how structural oppression is linked to violence.
Read More10 Types of Misogynist Men We All Need to Know About – And Then Call Out!
So you know the basics of how male privilege shows up – but do you know these subtler examples that are harder to identify? Addressing these can make a big difference beyond standing up to blatant sexism.
Read MoreHow the Trigger Warning Debate Exposes Our F*cked Up Views on Mental Illness
Do you agree with the University of Chicago dean about trigger warnings? These attitudes reveal that we need urgent changes in our approach to mental health.
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