Editors Note: While this video discusses the relationships between men and women, Everyday Feminism also recognizes the relationships between queer and non-binary people. Patriarchy and rape culture is not exclusive to heterosexual dynamics and cisgender people.
Generations of feminist thought, writing, and performance have and continue to deconstruct the ways patriarchy, misogyny, and sexism teach us that people perceived as women solely exist to appease male desire and consumption. Despite this, so many people persist in creating gnarly ways to validate their acts of rape culture and sexual assault.
This form of violence is currently manifesting in the form of “sensitive, good-hearted” people complaining about being placed into the friend zone. In reality, these are people who believe they are entitled to sex and/or romance with the person of their desire, regardless of that person’s mutual interest or consent.
Being angry with someone’s boundaries reveals an attitude of sexual entitlement and a lack of respect synonymous with rape culture, which is unacceptable.
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Video courtesy of Button Poetry. For more amazing spoken word performances, check them out on YouTube and Facebook.
Please read the following Everyday Feminism articles about rape culture for more information:
- To End Rape Culture, We Must Address These 3 Things
- 25 Everyday Examples of Rape Culture
- Five Ways Rape Culture Exists Unnoticed And Goes Unchecked In Our Everyday Life
- On Parenting and Rape Culture
- How Sexually Violent Language Perpetuates Rape Culture and What You Can Do About It
- 10 Ways Men Can Combat Sexist Entitlement in Public
- How Male Sexual Entitlement Hurts Everyone
- 5 Simple Ways Men Can Better Respect Women
Desireé Dallagiacomo ranked 3rd at The 2014 Individual World Poetry Slam and 3rd at The 2014 National Poetry Slam. She is a student at the University of New Orleans where she studies women & gender as well as creative writing. Her work, and more info about her, can be found at poemsbydes.tumblr.com.
Justin Lamb is an educator, writer and National Poetry Slam champion. Originally from Connecticut, Justin resides in New Orleans, where he has competed as a member of the nationally acclaimed Team Slam New Orleans (Team SNO) for the past four years. You can find him on Twitter @justalamb or his website.
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