Here’s the Problem With ‘You Can’t Love Someone Else Until You Love Yourself’

Do you believe that you can’t love someone else until you love yourself?

There are good intentions behind this idea – but is it really just positive advice for self-love, or are we missing something when we say it?

In this video, Celia Edell shares some really smart insights on how this statement can be harmful – and why it’s also untrue. When you consider that self-love is important, but also pretty difficult, and think about what self-care means for people with mental illness and other struggles, you might get a whole new perspective on this saying.

We hope these insights can help relieve some of the pressure of not feeling “good enough” for the love that’s best for you.

With Love,
The Editors at Everyday Feminism

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Celia Edell is a Contributing Vlogger for Everyday Feminism, a freelance writer, and feminist philosopher. She holds a B.A. in philosophy from University of Western Ontario and is currently doing her masters degree in philosophy at University of Sheffield in England. Her interests include critical race theory, mental health awareness, and bad made-for-TV movies. She tweets and blogs under the name @ceedling