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Some people think it’s contradictory to be a feminist and practice BDSM. With these tips, you can think through even more than safe words and and consent – and get kinky without compromising your values.

If you’re feeling okay about judging a “promiscuous” woman because of these myths, you need to know the truth behind them.

Lucky us! We’re really glad #4 made the list. Can you think of any more?

Read this and tell us: Ever had a sex shop experience as regretful or fantastic as these? Here’s to better times for all of us!

Is it “just for fun” when we love to hate on women in the media like Kim Kardashian? What does that say about us? What we need to know about our role in a dangerous kind of sexism.

It’s important to discuss kink from a feminist perspective because of the harm that misinformation about our desires can cause. This misinformation can lead to feelings of disempowerment in one’s a/sexuality and relationships, and erardicating that should be part of the foundation of any intersectional feminist movement. So let’s bust three common myths about BDSM.

Hookup culture. Everybody’s doing it. But maybe let’s take a step back and think about how – and who – this upward trend in casual sex is affecting: Is it healthy? Is it fostering equality? Is it beneficial for all? Or does it continue to uphold patriarchal memes?

When it comes to sexuality and feminism, one of the biggest roadblocks that we face – both in unlearning our own educations and in teaching others – is how social messages conflict with our own authenticity. What are some ways in which we can transform public thought about sexual “norms” and reconcile our feminist beliefs with social norms surrounding sex?

Revenge porn – never heard of it? This new internet craze, specifically focused on women, occurs when a person shares a sexual or nude photo or video with a partner or hookup who later decides to make the private photo public. And in most places, it’s perfectly legal. So what can be done in these types of situations? Let’s look at the options we have.

A lot of pornography is proudly misogynistic, but it doesn’t have to be like that. There’s no reason a video can’t be sexually explicit and still present women as human beings who have an equal right to sexual desire, pleasure, and satisfaction. There’s no reason that porn can’t present women as sexual collaborators with men rather than as sexual conquests of men.

With rare exceptions, no one who is throwing a party spends the time, energy, and money so that people will get assaulted. Yet there is a clear connection between college party culture and sexual violence. To mitigate the risk, most colleges simply take a punitive approach (with varying levels of alcohol education thrown in) to alcohol on campus. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Virginity, supposedly, is sacred. But I have news for you: It doesn’t have to be. All it takes is a little bit of myth-busting, a little bit of education, and we can turn around the conversation about virginity. So let me help you navigate through the murky waters of these four myths about virginity. Join me. We’re long overdue.

How can I pick what to watch without feeling like I’m condoning all of the sexist hoopla draped all over the majority of videos I might choose? Masturbation isn’t supposed to be this morally fraught, right? If it’s such a hassle, you might say, why not forgo the pornography parade altogether? It’s pretty simple: I like porn. The porn industry, on the other hand, is a whole different beast.

Girls are often raised more conservatively and are socially conditioned to set limitations on sexual activity. And if the movie industry is an extension of our world, you can expect it to be just as sexist and patriarchal. But you don’t have to accept it. When we write our stories and demand to see them portrayed, we redefine what is normal. Redefining normal is easier than you think.

Most sexual education is terrible! Here’s a guide for cisgender girls and women with what you need to know before having sex for the first time.