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A Reclamation of Our Personal Rights as Victims and Survivors of Sexual Violence
“We the right to heal in our own ways.” Reclaim the rights that have been denied to you – by your perpetrator and by society – with these important reminders.
Read More4 Reasons It’s Oppressive to Discuss Gender and Sexuality Without Naming Race
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that “solidarity” for marginalized genders and sexualities means centering whiteness. Here’s how this is happening, and why it needs to stop.
Read MoreThese 14 Sexual Assault Survivors Prove That It Can Happen to Anyone
(Trigger warning: victim-blaming, sexual assault, pedophilia, transphobia, rape.) As society slowly begins to recognize the pervasive problem of sexual violence, it is important to remember that this abuse can affect anyone. People of all ages, genders, races, sizes, and sexualities have survived this kind of violence. These photos show how widespread this violence is.
Read More6 Racist and Sexist Things You Should Never Say to a Mixed Race Woman
Wanna find out why “you’re so exotic” is not a compliment? Most of the comments mixed race women get don’t come from a place of malice or hatred, but a lack of understanding. And navigating a multi-racial identity can be hard enough without factors like racism and sexism. So avoid being racially sensitive by starting with Marina Watanabe’s tips on what not to say.
Read MoreYou’re Not ‘Oversensitive’ – Here’s How People Use Gaslighting to Dismiss Sexism
Have you ever been told you’re “overreacting” when you speak out against sexism? Celia Edell’s take on how gaslighting is used to silence you can help get you through this frustrating response.
Read MoreI Like My Unruly Eyebrows, Thank You Very Much
Has anyone told you that you “should” get your eyebrows done? Here’s an affirming perspective from one woman who’s rejecting the pressure to pluck.
Read MoreIs Feminism a Movement Just for Women – Or Is It About All Forms of Oppression?
Is there one definition of feminism that’s more accurate than the other? Celia Edell explains two different uses of the term “feminism” – and what we can learn from them.
Read More4 Ways to Get Over the Feeling of Not Being Smart Enough
You know that feeling that you don’t deserve what you have and just got where you are based on luck? Well, it can lead to some serious problems. Here’s how to fight it.
Read MoreHow to Introduce Your Partner to Feminism
I didn’t identify as a feminist when I first met my partner seven years ago. But as I became more comfortable identifying as a feminist, I began to feel wary about coming out as a feminist to one of the closest people in my life – my partner. Feminism likely changed your perception of the world and yourself, so share your new perspective. Feminism is a conversation. Don’t be afraid to start one.
Read More3 Reasons Why Being Anti-Racist Isn’t Code for Being Anti-White
It seems like every time anti-racism activists speak up about their work, there is some level of pushback claiming that the work is “attacking white people.” But the thing is, that’s just not true. Anti-racism is not against white people. To clarify what anti-racism is really about, here are three things that the movement actually works to dismantle.
Read MoreHow To Speak To Your Children About Violence
With the repeated images of real life violence, including the Boston marathon tragedy, children’s (and adults’) emotional health are being affected. An easy response is “turn off the TV!” However, simply not allowing children to watch television is not enough to help them cope with violence. We need better approaches to help this generation of youth cope with and resist a culture of violence.
Read More4 Person-to-Person Things I Do to Address Anti-Blackness con Mi Gente
If, as Latinxs, we can’t address our own anti-blackness with family and friends, how can we possibly fight racism in a larger white supremacist society? We need to create genuine relationships and solidarity on the ground in order to have an impact. So here are four person-to-person ways I address anti-blackness with nuestra gente. What are your approaches?
Read MoreHow Emma Stone’s Role As an ‘Asian’ Character Reveals a Huge Hollywood Problem
Do you see yourself represented in Hollywood? Marina Watanabe’s uncovered the appalling numbers behind the media’s lack of diversity – and she’s on point about why it matters.
Read More3 Steps to Creating a Better Self-Care Routine
Without a solid self-care practice, negative feelings of blame can overwhelm us. Here are three steps you can use to shift perspective, care for yourself, and find the time to do so.
Read More5 Ways We Unintentionally Encourage Disordered Eating During the Holidays
You’ve probably said or heard these things around the holidays – but do you know how they can contribute to disordered eating?
Read More4 Reasons Why I Refuse to Say That Mental Illness ‘Doesn’t Define Me’
Is it better to separate your mental illness from your identity? Not for everyone – and this may give you a whole new perspective on this question.
Read MoreComing Out As Trans*
The decision to come out and to whom is as individual as you are. It is likely that you will have to come out to those people closest to you and those you see frequently. However, being publicly out – as an activist or as anyone in the public eye – is a decision you must weigh. Here are some thoughts on when and how to come out but remember, only you know what’s right for you and your situation.
Read MoreAre Racial Dating Preferences Racist?
Do you think saying you’re “not into” a certain race is just a matter of preference? A lot of people do – and Kat Blaque used to be one of them. Here’s how she realized how wrong she was.
Read MoreWhen It’s A Popularity Contest: Here’s How To Redistribute Social Capital In Activist Spaces
The ideas around social capital and popularity often run alongside privilege and desirability politics. Previously, I wasn’t aware of these terms. But after a few, let’s say, “discussions” with other organizers, I’m was made aware of the ways social capital can create hierarchies in organizing spaces. These conversations led to a few things: Some folks…
Read MoreWhy Paid Sick Leave Is Feminist as Hell
Do you know why supporting paid sick leave is so crucial for intersectional feminists? Here’s how this issue has a huge impact for women, families, and the wage gap.
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