Here’s the Problem With ‘You Can’t Love Someone Else Until You Love Yourself’

Do you believe that you can’t love someone else until you love yourself? This idea has good intentions – but are we missing something when we say it? Here’s Celia Edell with some smart insights on this saying.

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