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We believe parents can start educating children about consent and empowerment as early as 1 year old and continuing into the college years. It is our sincere hope that this education can help us raise empowered young adults who have empathy for others and a clear understanding of healthy consent. There are three sections, based upon children’s ages, preschool, grade school, and teens and young adults.

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Sex should never hurt. This is true regardless of a person’s gender, irrespective of the kind of sex that someone is having (consensual and desired pain-play notwithstanding), and it’s true whether it’s a person’s first or 401st time. But why are so many people resigned to having painful sex? Well, partly because we don’t talk about it enough. So let’s start now.

The idea that family members don’t want to know about each other’s sex lives is pretty popular – but it’s having some damaging results.

Bringing home a new baby is a mixture of unparalleled joy and equally intense stress. The last thing on your mind is probably the sexuality of your tiny infant. We don’t want to think of our innocent children as sexual beings but they are, especially in relationship to how they perceive their own body, which parents influence. And it all starts well before the first “birds and bees” discussion.

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“How do two women have sex?” Talk about intrusive! Even if you mean well, such questions can be insensitive – here’s why.

At that age, kids often ask a lot of questions about their bodies and it’s important they develop a positive relationship to them as part of developing healthy sexuality. Most of us have the best of intentions but lack the skills to implement them due to our own lack of role models and the very visceral reaction to the topic. So here’s a different way of handling their difficult questions.

It’s super important to have conversations about sexual boundaries, consent, and desires with your lovers. These conversations keep us safer, but there aren’t many examples for how to respectfully and non-fetishistically have them when your lover is trans. This article provides insight on how to compassionately negotiate sexual dialogue with your trans partner.

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With the way young people today are so wired into the media, it’s no surprise that many parents are looking for advice after discovering their child looking at porn. Here are helpful recommendations for what to say to your middle schooler, what you can stop worrying about, and how you can make this communication as healthy, informative, and comfortable as possible.

If you or someone you know is having trouble with “the birds and the bees” talk, this video might help. What other advice do you have for talking to kids about sex?

We often talk about how important consent is, but what, exactly, is consent? Here it is – a video from Lex Croucher covering the basics of what it means to consent to sexual activity. Rape, sexual assault, and coercion are far too common among all types of people. So spread the word, and let’s raise awareness of this clear understanding of consent. (Content Warning: Rape)

CW: Addiction, Sexual Assault, Sex… in general. This article is about sex. I have always had a negative relationship with sex. I discovered masturbating early, around six or seven years old. I would use masturbating combined with my active imagination and constant daydreaming as a way to escape the loneliness and isolation I felt not…

Trans men, like all people, need to know how to have fulfilling, safe, healthy sex to feel whole and good about ourselves. We deserve it (and don’t let anyone tell you differently). But most out trans boys, trans men, and trans masculine people I know receive inadequate, if not wholly non-existent, sex talks. So here are seven key places to start.

You’re probably familiar with the traditional vision of “sex positivity” – talking about all the ways that sex can be great. But do you know who’s being left out? This comic shows how we can make a change.

I’ve talked before about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. One of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. Let’s talk about the problems with the way we think about male virginity and how to fix them.

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“Let’s talk about (fat) sex!” We don’t talk about it nearly enough, but it’s an important part of both sex positivity and body positivity. Just think of all the ways sexuality is stripped from people who are considered fat. Now read this introduction to “Sex at Every Size,” a new set of practices to help us move beyond society’s limits and feel sexy at any size.

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We all know that so-called women’s magazines can be harmful, especially in the ways that they talk about sex. But have you ever thought about the way that these columns push sex as a cure-all for relationship ills? These authors have – and what they have to share may surprise you.

Are you only thinking about thin people’s experiences when you talk about sex apps like Grindr? These common assumptions show that we need to change the conversation.

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Do you have a hard time talking to your partner about your sexual desires and boundaries? You’re not alone – this article has five reasons these discussions can be difficult, with some strategies to make it easier.

When we talk about consent, we’re usually talking about adults. But where do we think these adults learned their understanding of consent? Many parents teach their kids harmful ideas about consent without even realizing. Check out this video to see an explanation of four common parenting tactics that could be causing some very harmful behaviors in adults.

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Lots of sex advice includes new tricks, toys, and positions. But if you’re like this author, those kinds of tips aren’t helpful – because the first step is to connect with your body. These tips can help you get there.