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4 Reasons I’m a ‘Successful’ Queer Cartoonist (That Have Nothing to Do With Skill)
Is “the dream” only within reach for certain people? Turns out the path to success is less universal than you might think.
Read MoreI Am Queer, I Am Non-Binary, and I Don’t Know What It Means to Feel Safe in Public
(Content Warning: Homophobic and transphobic violence) In what ways are you unlike what people think you “ought” to be? For too many of us who are transgender, being ourselves means there’s no such thing as feeling safe. Take it from this author, who never knows if a small altercation could lead to violence. His chilling story of a bus encounter shows how hatred and bystander apathy make the world unsafe.
Read MoreWhy Your Disbelief in My Queer Identity Doesn’t Negate Its Existence
One of the most obnoxious forms of ignorance that LGBTQ people face is identity policing, which often manifests as other people providing “theories” to explain your sexuality. Being queer means that people always feel entitled to an explanation — or worse, they think they know better. Let’s go through the various, ridiculous incarnations of queer identity police.
Read MoreToo Queer for Your Binary: Everything You Need to Know and More About Non-Binary Identities
It’s true that gender is a complex idea that means something different to every person. But this doesn’t give us much of an idea about how queer genders are experienced by people. It’s in every feminist’s best interest to listen and pay attention to trans people, so let’s explore some common ways gender is experienced by people in the trans community.
Read More4 Ways Feminism Has Empowered and Liberated Me as a Trans Person
Feminism hasn’t always been inclusive, so transgender folks who are frustrated with feminism have valid reasons. But if you want to know what a positive experience for a trans feminist could be like, look no further than this article. This author shows how valuable – and life-changing – a trans-inclusive feminism can be. This is how we want our feminism to be.
Read MoreBreaking Down the Assertion That Some Women Go for Jerks (And 3 Ways to Change the Conversation)
There’s an annoyingly persistent question often asked by the Nice Guy(TM) sect: “Why do some women go for jerks?” We need to redirect that question.
Read More7 Ways Transmasculine Folks Experience Emotional Abuse in Relationships
The toxic and abusive expressions of “love” that this author has experienced are far too common. If you notice any of these patterns in your relationship(s), here’s a chance to make a necessary change.
Read More3 Ways Men Wanting to ‘Focus On Her Pleasure’ During Sex Can Still Be Sexist
Why would hearing a guy say “I love giving a woman pleasure!” make this author cringe? We’re all for women’s pleasure, but these are great points about how it can be sexist – and solid advice for you if this feels familiar.
Read MoreHere’s What Is (And Isn’t) Working in Men’s Work on College Campuses
Being on a college campus is a unique opportunity to promote healthy relationships to masculinity and reduce sexual violence by engaging men. But there are a lot of dangers in doing this work. Here are some ideas for doing it responsibly.
Read More3 Truths About Love and Sex I Discovered While Dating as an Asian Trans Femme
#1: “Sexual attraction has everything to do with race.” Do you think attraction is just a “natural preference” outside of our control? These important lessons show otherwise.
Read MoreTo End Rape Culture, We Must Address These 3 Things
As with all other systems of oppression, rape culture is a beast with tentacles and spores across countless other facets of inequality. The following 3 things may not appear to be major components of rape culture at first glance, but undoubtedly fuel and are fueled by it. Dismantling and addressing these things must be part of our movement to end rape culture.
Read MoreThese 7 Assumptions About Non-Binary Folks May Be Hindering Your Trans Allyship
So you know that some people are non-binary – but do you know that these common (and harmful) myths about them are false?
Read More6 Ways Femmephobia Is Harming LGBTQIA+ Communities
Have you noticed femmephobia in your life? Here’s what it is and how it shows up in LGBTQIA+ communities – and why we must put a stop to the devastating results for everyone involved.
Read MoreAn Open Letter to My Transgender Brothers
I write this to speak to transgender men who love, desire, and have sex with other men (cis and trans). I write to you with a request. It is not common to discuss the homophobia that exists within our trans men and queer boi communities, especially among those of us who are of color. So brothers, please let’s talk about it now before it’s too late.
Read More6 Common Myths I Had to Unlearn to Embrace My Gender Identity
Do you believe any of these myths about who “really” counts as trans? Here’s how unlearning them can be really liberating.
Read MoreDo You Know All These Prefixes for Sexual Identities?
Heterosexual, bisexual, pomosexual, demisexual… There are more prefixes to describe us than you might think. Which words, if any, describe your identity?
Read More5 Ways Mexican Queerness Is a Radical Act Against Colonialism and Machismo
“My existence often feels like a radical act in itself.” What’s it like to be queer within Mexican Catholicism? This is a powerful answer.
Read MoreThe Ones We Left Behind: On Being An Ally To Small Town Queers
This is the essential conflict of being queer in a small, conservative town – should you chose to live openly and unapologetically, you might be rejected by the very people and things you’ve spent a lifetime loving. But it is possible to inspire change and build community in your own neck of the woods. The world needs people who stay and I want you to know that this flighty gay is here for you.
Read More11 Assumptions About Being Butch – And Why They Need to Stop
Have you made any of these assumptions about what it means to be butch? They’re way too common – and you might not realize how much they recreate patriarchal thinking. It’s time for a reality check.
Read MoreHere Are 6 Ways That Girls Are Taught They Shouldn’t Ask Guys Out (And Why They Should Do It Anyway)
What century are we in again? Tired gender roles still hold a lot of us back in the dating world, but here’s why they don’t have to.
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