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We all have that one person in our life who matters a great deal to us, is a tolerant and good-hearted individual, but who doesn’t quite understand why feminism is still important. Jessica Valenti offers suggestions about how to approach these individuals, how to argue that feminism does matter, and how to maintain some semblance of inner peace as you do this.

All men have been hurt by the traditional gender system. You may have accepted these realities as just part of being a guy. But feminists say that’s not right and men are more than that.

If you’re a cis man, you probably think of yourself as one of the “good guys.” But these abusive actions are more common than you may realize. Here’s how to change them.

Ever thought about how many people’s jobs depend on the pressure to get married? The wedding industry may seem harmless, but it’s feeding us some toxic ideas.

Youth non-profits are all about empowering young people…aren’t they? With these common mistakes, adultism in these organizations is a real problem.

You might dismiss these examples of Asian women fetishes as harmless – or even as compliments. But here’s what’s really going on with these stereotypes.

These narratives from mainstream environmentalism might sound good – but you probably don’t realize that they’re doing more harm than good. This shows what we need instead.

This makes an excellent point about why we have to change up the message about what’s really “best” and “natural” for parents and babies.

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Are any of these Islamophobic microaggressions familiar to you? Here are some of the subtle ways feminists have made this author feel unwelcome – and how they add up to a painful reality for Muslim feminists.

The majority of people with vaginas have painful sexual intercourse at some point in their lives. Cristen Conger shares some of the most common reasons, with ideas to help.

After Marina Watanabe made a video about depression, someone asked if she’s been diagnosed. We’re glad she came back with this smart answer on what this question gets wrong.

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You can probably think of more than a few reasons why the image of the hot, hypersexual Latina is a tired stereotype. Here’s an alarming one: that stereotype forces asexual Latinas to battle dangerous racialized and sexist messages that say their bodies are not their own. Read on for this stunning perspective that gives us more reason to put this myth to rest.

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There was a terrible backlash after actor Shia LaBeouf told a reporter that a woman raped him. And unfortunately, the jokes made at his expense are not unusual. Here’s why the truth about male rape survivors is no laughing matter.

Popular culture has a way of turning modern women into villains. It equates women’s independence with arrogance, and their modernity with shamelessness. It ends up strengthening the good woman/bad woman dichotomy – the dichotomy that pits women against women. Here are a few simple ways that a good girl/bad girl dichotomy is created in society and in pop culture, looking in particular at South Asian media.

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It can be hard to admit, but abusers are in our communities – they’re not just “monsters in the night.” If you’ve caused pain, this guide can help bring accountability and healing.

(Trigger Warning: Body Image) According to Glamour, “Fitspo refers to images and words that women post with the purpose of inspiring themselves and others to live a fit, active life.” The problem that we see with fitspo, though, is that it looks too much like a not-so-cleverly-disguised thinspo. And these ideas that our bodies just aren’t good enough the way that they are is still dangerous.

The reality of male privilege is well established. There is no question that being female carries a significant “life penalty” with it. There’s no denying that male privilege exists. However, sometimes it feels taboo to ask how far male privilege goes. Who better to ask about it, though, than trans men and women who have lived on both sides of the divide?

#1: “Sexual attraction has everything to do with race.” Do you think attraction is just a “natural preference” outside of our control? These important lessons show otherwise.

Being an ally is difficult, especially as a heterosexual cis male. The pressures of (traditional notions of) masculinity and a lifetime of systematic patriarchal training are difficult to overcome. So I have compiled four pieces of advice — based on my own experiences and slip-ups — to help all cis males (myself included) become open feminists and allies.

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Here’s the perfect analogy for why it’s ridiculous to refuse to listen to feminist goals – and the real info about what feminism’s all about.