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How Do You Get Men to Understand That Feminism Is Important?
We all have that one person in our life who matters a great deal to us, is a tolerant and good-hearted individual, but who doesn’t quite understand why feminism is still important. Jessica Valenti offers suggestions about how to approach these individuals, how to argue that feminism does matter, and how to maintain some semblance of inner peace as you do this.
Read MoreWhy Men Need Feminism Too (Really, You Do!)
All men have been hurt by the traditional gender system. You may have accepted these realities as just part of being a guy. But feminists say that’s not right and men are more than that.
Read More5 Common Behaviors Cis Men May Not Realize Are Abusive (And How to Stop Them)
If you’re a cis man, you probably think of yourself as one of the “good guys.” But these abusive actions are more common than you may realize. Here’s how to change them.
Read MoreWhat the Wedding Industrial Complex Is – And How It’s Hurting Our Ideas of Love
Ever thought about how many people’s jobs depend on the pressure to get married? The wedding industry may seem harmless, but it’s feeding us some toxic ideas.
Read More7 Hurtful Ways Adultism Shows Up in Youth Non-Profits
Youth non-profits are all about empowering young people…aren’t they? With these common mistakes, adultism in these organizations is a real problem.
Read MoreHow Rape Culture and Racism Combine to Hurt Asian Women
You might dismiss these examples of Asian women fetishes as harmless – or even as compliments. But here’s what’s really going on with these stereotypes.
Read More5 Mainstream Environmentalist Messages Hurting the Fight Against Climate Change
These narratives from mainstream environmentalism might sound good – but you probably don’t realize that they’re doing more harm than good. This shows what we need instead.
Read MoreHow the ‘Breast Is Best’ Message Can Hurt New Parents
This makes an excellent point about why we have to change up the message about what’s really “best” and “natural” for parents and babies.
Read More5 Hurtful Microaggressions I’ve Experienced as a Muslim in Feminist Spaces
Are any of these Islamophobic microaggressions familiar to you? Here are some of the subtle ways feminists have made this author feel unwelcome – and how they add up to a painful reality for Muslim feminists.
Read MoreHave a Vagina? Here Are 5 Reasons Sex Might Hurt
The majority of people with vaginas have painful sexual intercourse at some point in their lives. Cristen Conger shares some of the most common reasons, with ideas to help.
Read MoreWhy ‘Have You Been Diagnosed?’ Can Be a Hurtful Question
After Marina Watanabe made a video about depression, someone asked if she’s been diagnosed. We’re glad she came back with this smart answer on what this question gets wrong.
Read MoreHow Latina ‘Spicy and Sexy’ Stereotypes Hurt Asexual Latinas
You can probably think of more than a few reasons why the image of the hot, hypersexual Latina is a tired stereotype. Here’s an alarming one: that stereotype forces asexual Latinas to battle dangerous racialized and sexist messages that say their bodies are not their own. Read on for this stunning perspective that gives us more reason to put this myth to rest.
Read More5 Reasons We Need to Stop Making Jokes About Men Who Have Been Raped By Women
There was a terrible backlash after actor Shia LaBeouf told a reporter that a woman raped him. And unfortunately, the jokes made at his expense are not unusual. Here’s why the truth about male rape survivors is no laughing matter.
Read More4 Ways Pop Culture Villainizes Modern Women
Popular culture has a way of turning modern women into villains. It equates women’s independence with arrogance, and their modernity with shamelessness. It ends up strengthening the good woman/bad woman dichotomy – the dichotomy that pits women against women. Here are a few simple ways that a good girl/bad girl dichotomy is created in society and in pop culture, looking in particular at South Asian media.
Read More9 Ways to Be Accountable When You’ve Been Abusive
It can be hard to admit, but abusers are in our communities – they’re not just “monsters in the night.” If you’ve caused pain, this guide can help bring accountability and healing.
Read More5 Reasons Fitspo Is Bad for Your Health
(Trigger Warning: Body Image) According to Glamour, “Fitspo refers to images and words that women post with the purpose of inspiring themselves and others to live a fit, active life.” The problem that we see with fitspo, though, is that it looks too much like a not-so-cleverly-disguised thinspo. And these ideas that our bodies just aren’t good enough the way that they are is still dangerous.
Read MorePondering Male Privilege Post-Transition
The reality of male privilege is well established. There is no question that being female carries a significant “life penalty” with it. There’s no denying that male privilege exists. However, sometimes it feels taboo to ask how far male privilege goes. Who better to ask about it, though, than trans men and women who have lived on both sides of the divide?
Read More3 Truths About Love and Sex I Discovered While Dating as an Asian Trans Femme
#1: “Sexual attraction has everything to do with race.” Do you think attraction is just a “natural preference” outside of our control? These important lessons show otherwise.
Read More4 Lessons from the Trenches of Allyship
Being an ally is difficult, especially as a heterosexual cis male. The pressures of (traditional notions of) masculinity and a lifetime of systematic patriarchal training are difficult to overcome. So I have compiled four pieces of advice — based on my own experiences and slip-ups — to help all cis males (myself included) become open feminists and allies.
Read MoreFeminism Isn’t About Man-Hating, Even Though Some Feminists Hate Men – Let This Analogy Explain
Here’s the perfect analogy for why it’s ridiculous to refuse to listen to feminist goals – and the real info about what feminism’s all about.
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