No, We Won’t Calm Down – Tone Policing Is Just Another Way to Protect Privilege

“Calm down so we can discuss this like adults.” Ever said something like this in a conversation on oppression? Tone policing is no way to get justice, and this comic will help you understand exactly why.

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